April lepas, Haikal hilang 2 gigi depan.
Dan sejak tu, macam2 saya dengar orang cakap pada dia--
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rongak,
dah tak handsome,
dah tak comel,
macam dracula,
macam terowong,
macam2.
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Dan tadi, ada sepasang suami isteri minta nak selfie dengan Haikal. Macam biasa, Haikal tak pernah menolak bila ada strangers nak bergambar dengan dia.
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Dah elok posing, tetiba si isteri tu cakap--
"Alamak Haikal. Senyum tutup mulut boleh tak? Buruk la gigi takde. Seram aunty tengok."
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Aku kat tepi tu cuba bertenang walaupun dalam hati rasa nak sumbat kaki kat mulut dia 😑
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Betul lah.
Di mata anak2, takde yang dilihat buruk pada diri mereka--
sehingga lah KITA sendiri yg ajar betapa buruknya mereka.
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Maka membesarlah anak itu dengan rasa diri tak sempurna, tak cukup putih, tak cukup tinggi, tak cukup sado, tak cukup comel, tak cukup flawless.
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Benih2 insecurities itu--
KITA yang tanam.
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Habis selfie, suami isteri tadi happy lalu beredar sambil lambai2 pada Haikal.
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Hilang je mereka dari pandangan, saya terus tanya Haikal--
"Haikal ok?"
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"Ok."
Tapi di wajah dia jelas, dia TAK OK.
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So saya tanya lagi--
"Ada apa2 yang Haikal nak share dengan mama?"
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Sambil tunduk dia jawab--
"Hmm. Orang tadi cakap Haikal buruk. Bila gigi baru Haikal nak tumbuh ni, ma?"
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See?!
Begitu2 sahaja benih insecurity berjaya ditanam. 😩
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Selama ni Haikal tak pernah rasa yang proses ganti gigi ni sebagai satu nightmare--
sampai lah tadi.
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Dear parents & adults sekalian.
Before running your mouth, remember to plug in your brain. Setiap butir kata yang keluar dari mulut kita ni akan jadi inner voice dalam diri anak2.
It can either make them or break them.
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Segala provokasi, ejekan, makian, leteran, hamburan, sindirian, dari mulut kita, walaupun bergurau--
BE AWARE.
BE MINDFUL.
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Ingat, kita nak tanam benih2 self-esteem, confidence, self-worth, dan empathy dalam diri anak2. Bukannya benih insecurities yang buat mereka semakin lama semakin hilang diri sendiri.
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Fikir-fikirkan lah.
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Oh I should've said thank you kat pasangan suami isteri yang minta selfie tadi.
Kalau takde diorang, takde lah post ni. 😂
So thank you guys for this lesson you've taught us today.
Kredit Adlil Rajliah
Last April, Haikal lost 2 front teeth.
And since then, I heard people talk to him --
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rongak,
Not handsome anymore,
Not cute anymore,
like a dracula,
Like a tunnel,
sorts of things.
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And just now, a couple of husbands asked to take a selfie with Haikal. As usual, Haikal never refuses when there are strangers to take pictures with him.
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Posing well, suddenly the wife said --
′′ Damn Haikal. Can a smile shut up your mouth? It's bad that there's no teeth. Aunty is scary looking at it."
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I'm at the side trying to be calm even though I feel like putting foot in his mouth 😑
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That's right.
In the eyes of children, nothing is seen bad in themselves --
until we ourselves teach how bad they are.
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So grow up the child with an imperfect self, not white enough, not tall enough, not sad enough, not cute enough, not flawless enough.
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Those seeds of insecurities --
WE are the ones who plant.
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After selfie, husband and wife are happy and leaving while waves at Haikal.
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They are gone from sight, I keep asking Haikal --
′′ Haikal ok?"
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′′ Ok."
But in his face it's clear, he's NOT OK.
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So I ask again --
′′ Is there anything Haikal to share with mama?"
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While he was down he answered --
′′ Hmm. The guy said Haikal was bad. When Haikal's new tooth is growing, ma?"
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See?!
Just like that the seed of insecurity is successfully planted. 😩
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Haikal has never felt the process of changing teeth as a nightmare --
Until now.
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Dear parents & adults all.
Before running your mouth, remember to plug in your brain. Every single word that comes out of our mouth will become the inner voice in our children.
It can either make them or break them.
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All provocation, mocking, craziness, scattering, scattering, sarcasion, from our mouth, even though we joke --
BE AWARE.
BE MINDFUL.
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Remember, we want to plant self-esteem seeds, confidence, self-worth, and empathy in the children. Instead of seed insecurities that make them get longer and more lost themselves.
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Think about it.
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Oh I should've said thank you to the couple who asked for selfie earlier.
Kalau takde diorang, takde lah post ni. 😂
So thank you guys for this lesson you've taught us today.
Adlil Rajliah CreditTranslated
