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【違う意見を聞けない人】

僕は数年前にテレビの「ひな壇」に出るのを辞めたんですね。

理由は二つです。

一つ目の理由は、「得意ではないから」

「スポーツが苦手だから、その分、勉強を頑張ります」みたいな感じです。

　
二つ目の理由は、「これから鍛えるべき筋肉はそこじゃないと判断したから」

これは、その当時もお話ししたのですが、「そもそも『ひな壇』という文化は何故、生まれたのか？」というところから掘り下げて考えてみると、僕が知るかぎりでは１９８０年代には、その原型はあったんですね。

たけしサンがやられていた「元気が出るテレビ」なんかは、出演者が二段に分かれて並んでいました。

しかし、ひな段形式の番組はそこまで多くはなかった。ところが、２０００年代に入ると「ひな壇」が急増します。

理由はいくつかあると思いますが、一番大きな理由として、薄型テレビの普及が考えられます。

テレビが薄型になり、テレビ画面が大きくなり、画面が大きくなったもんだから、登場人物が多くないと、画面のバランスが悪い。
もしくは、登場人物が多くても、一人一人の表情が確認できるようになった。
その時、「ひな壇」という形が重宝されたわけですね。

ところが、ある時、スマホというものが現れた。人は、スマホでテレビ番組を見るようになり、YouTubeを見るようになった。

スマホ画面は「横5センチ」とかいうレベルですから、「ひな壇」が面白い面白くないという議論ではなくて、単純に、「登場人物が多いエンタメは見にくいです。
表情が確認できない。

こうなってくると、求められるスキルは、「大勢の中で前に出て行く力（瞬発力）」ではなくて、「一人で画面を持たせることができる力（持久力）」である、と。

というわけで、「一人で画面を持たせることができる力（持久力）」を身につけようと思ったわけです。



……今聞くと、「そりゃそうだよね」という話かもしれませんが、当時は日本中からフルバッシングです。

同業者からも「ひな壇、出ろや！」と散々言われて、結果、好感度低い芸人１位になっちゃったのですが……これ、変な話だと思いませんか？



ただただ「なるほど。西野はそういう生き方をするのね。僕は僕で、ひな壇を頑張ります」というだけの話だと思うんです。

ところが、多くの人は、そうはならず、叩いてしまった。

僕は正直に言うと「嫌い！」となっちゃう理由も、よく分からないんです。

ただ、「違う意見」というだけなのに、どういうわけか「人格否定」にまで発展してしまう。

「違う意見＝なるほど」ではなくて、「違う意見＝嫌い」になってしまう。

ツイッターなんかを見ていても、「意見」と「人格」を切り離して考えることができる人が圧等的に少ない。



「意見」と「人格」を切り離して考えられない人の未来、かなり厳しくないですか？

一度、相手が自分とは違う意見を出しそうものなら、「嫌い」になってしまう。
となると、その相手が、その後、メチャクチャいい意見を言ったとしても、その時には、もう「聞く耳も持たない」という状態になっているわけですから、自分の人生の選択肢、考え方が極端に減ってしまう。

今なんて、ものすごいスピードで時代のルールが変わるから、選択肢が少ない人が生きれる時代じゃないんですね。


分かりやすいのが、「芸人やったら、ひな段に出ろや！」と大声で言っていた芸人は、軒並みYouTubeの進出が出遅れてしまって、現在、苦戦を強いられている。

クラウドファンディングや、オンラインサロンも同様。

「否定してしまった手前、できない」みたいな落とし穴にハマってしまっている。



「なるほど、そういう考え方もあるんだね」「今回は意見が分かれたね」でイイと思うんです。

というか、そういった感じで「意見」と「人格」を切り分けて、「違う意見」を持つ人の声にも耳を傾けられる状態にしておかないと、選択肢が減って、時代に対応できなくなる。



あと、「Aを選んだということは、Bを否定している」と考えてしまう人も、かなり厳しい。

「キンコン西野は、ひな壇に出ないです」というだけの話なのですが、それが「キンコン西野、ひな壇批判！」となっちゃう人。

これも本質は同じだと思っていて、「違う意見」を聞く能力が極端に低下してしまっている。

「Aが好き」ということと、「Bが嫌い」というのは、まったく別問題なので。

「Bもいいと思うけど、僕はAを選びます」というケースがあるわけだから。

　
既婚者が、未婚者に対して、「なんで結婚しないの！？」と詰問する場面、皆様も何度か見たことあると思うんです。

いや、ええやん。

その人の人生で、その人が、その生き方を選んだだけやん。なんで、自分の意見以外はアウトになっちゃうの？
そして、そんなこという人に限って、離婚します。
既婚者の35％は離婚します。


一言でまとめると、「『なるほどね』という言葉を持て！」という話です。
意見と人格を混同させてしまうと、後々、絶対に自分の首が絞まるので。



僕、苦手な意見はありますが、「嫌いな人」って、ほとんどいないんです。

今、パッと出てこない。「意見」と「人格」を切り分けて考えたら、「嫌いな人」なんて、「執拗に嫌がらせをしてくる人」以外、ほぼ発生しないハズ。

「私、○○のことが嫌いやねん」と軽々しく口にしちゃっている人は一度、振り返って考えてみてください。





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https://salon.jp/nishino

▼Instagram版はコチラ↓
https://nishino73.thebase.in/items/25497065
[people who can't hear different opinions]

I quit being on the tv ′′ Hinadan ′′ a few years ago.

There are two reasons.

The first reason is," because I'm not good at it ′′

′′ I'm not good at Sports, so I'm going to do my best to study

　
The second reason is," because I judged that the muscles to train are not there,"

I talked about this at that time, but," in the first place, why is the culture of ′′ Hinadan ′′ born?" I delve into it and think about it, and as long as I know, it's in the 1980 s. There was a prototype, wasn't it?

The performers were divided into two levels and lined up with the ′′ TV that takeshi san was hit.

However, there were not many programs in the hinata format. However, in the 2000 s, the ′′ Hinadan ′′ will suddenly increase.

I think there are a few reasons, but as the biggest reason, the dissemination of flat-screen TV is considered.

The TV has become a thin screen, the tv screen is bigger, and the screen is getting bigger, so if there aren't many characters, the balance of the screen is bad.
Or even if there are many characters, the expression of each person is now able to be confirmed.
At that time, the shape of ′′ Hinadan ′′ was handy.

But sometimes a smartphone appeared. People started watching tv shows on smartphones and started watching Youtube.

The Smartphone screen is a level of ′′ 5 centimeters on the side," so it's not a discussion that ′′ Hinadan ′′ is interesting and not interesting, but it's simply," it's hard to see a lot of characters.
I can't confirm the expression.

This is how the skill that can be sought is not," the power to go out in a lot of people (instantaneous power)," it is the power that can make you have a screen alone (endurance) ′′ , and.

So," I thought I was going to wear the power (endurance) that I can have a screen alone.



...... if you listen to it now, it may be the story of ′′ that's right," but it's full bashing from Japan at the time.

From the competitor, I was told that I was going to go out of the way, and I was in the 1th place of the low-like comedian...... don't you think this is a strange story?



Simply ′′ I see. Nishino is going to live like that. I think I'm just a story that I'm going to do my best in the hinadan

But many of them did not and slapped them.

I honestly don't really understand why I'm going to ′′ hate ′′ to be honest.

It's just a ′′ different opinion," but somehow it's developed to ′′ personality deny,"

It's not ′′ different opinion = I see," it's going to be ′′ different opinion = hate,"

Even if you look at Twitter, there are few people who can separate and think of ′′ opinion ′′ and ′′ personality,"



The future of people who can't separate ′′ opinion ′′ and ′′ personality ′′ isn't it pretty strict?

Once the other person is going to make a different opinion than you, you will be ′′ hate,"
When the other person says a messed up opinion, then it's no longer a state of ′′ I don't even have an ear to listen so the choice of my life, the mindset of my life is extreme. It's going to be reduced.

Now it's not the era where people who have less choices can live because the rules of the era change at a tremendous speed.


It's easy to understand, but the comedian who said out loud, ′′ if you do an comedian, you'll get out of the hinata-Dan!" is now struggling with the struggle.

Crowdfunding and online salon as well.

I'm addicted to pitfalls like ′′ I can't do it before I deny it



′′ I see, there's that kind of mindset "" I think it's good to have a divided opinion this time ""

I mean, if you don't want to carve out ′′ opinion ′′ and ′′ personality ′′ and listen to the voice of people with ′′ different opinions," you won't be able to do it, and you won't be able to respond to the times. I'm sorry.



Later, people who think that ′′ choosing a is denying b," are pretty tough.

It's just a story that ′′ Xin Nishino is not going to be on the hitadan!" but it's the one who's going to be ′′ Xin Nishino, criticism!"

I think this is the same quality, and the ability to listen to ′′ different opinions ′′ has decreased extreme.

′′ I like a ′′ and ′′ I hate b ′′ is a completely different problem.

′′ I think b is good, but I choose a

　
I think I've seen a few times when married people ask the unmarried," why don't you get married!?"

No, I like it.

In the life of the person, the person just chose the way he lives. Why is it going to be out except your opinion?
And only for those who say that, I will divorce.
35 % of married people get divorced.


In One Word, it's a story that you have the word ′′ I see!"
When you confuse your opinion and personality, you will definitely squeeze your neck later.



I have an opinion that I'm not good at, but there are few people who don't like it.

I don't have a quick time right now." if you carve out the ′′ opinion ′′ and ′′ personality ′′ and think about it, it's almost not going to happen except ′′ people who don't like it," people who are persistent and harassment,"

If you are effortlessly mouth-to-mouth with ′′ I don't like ○○ please look back and think about it once.





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https://salon.jp/nishino

▼ Instagram version is here ↓
https://nishino73.thebase.in/items/25497065Translated

Bertunang dan berkahwin ni nampak indah tapi realitinya hanya yang melalui je tahu. Siapa yang rancang nak bertunang tu, korang tengok ujian dan cabaran yang selalu orang bertunang hadap. Ikut dan hayati baik baik , yang mana buruk jadikan tauladan dan yang mana baik ambil sebagai pedoman 🌸

Situasi 1: DIUJI DENGAN MASALAH KEWANGAN
godaan: gunalah duit sikit untuk melabur. lepas dua tiga bulan dapat duit lebih, boleh guna tampung majlis. kahwin banyak pakai duit. kurang sike...
Continue ReadingGetting engaged and married looks beautiful but the reality is only those who know. Whoever plans to get engaged, look at the tests and challenges that people always get engaged in. Follow and appreciate good good, which is bad make an example and which is better take as a guideline 🌸

Situation 1: TESTED WITH FINAL PROBLEMS
Temptation: use some money to invest. After two three months of earning extra money, you can use the event. Married a lot with money. Just a little less now. later can replace more

IMPORTANT NOTE: make sure the ready-kept marriage money is not teased by side. If you have extra money, you can use it. But if that money is enough for marriage needs. It's good to prioritize the important thing, discuss with your partner to decide. There's one case, regretting myself because of using dowry money to join the business, at last, I didn't get money Wedding has to be tough

Situation 2. PRESENTATION OF UNLIMITED GUEST (ex)
temptation: i love you again. If I propose to you? I'm waiting for you. I'm willing to wait for you until you divorce and etc

IMPORTANT REMINDER: why did she become an ex? because she is EXperienced! let go and start! Appreciate those who appreciate more. if it wasn't a good love before. it's time to prove we can be the best love! Let go.. start a new story that can be the most beautiful story for children and grandchildren. God willing.

Situation 3: TESTED WITH ATTITUDE
temptation: suddenly engagement becomes too sensitive, angry, less patient

IMPORTANT NOTE, when you want to marry. Definitely putting us in a stressful level. Because there's a lot of things to think about, settled. Added to the feeling of commitment (feeling like a husband, wife), so he becomes more care. Simple things become complicated. The devil has added a dose to cancel the good things. It's getting more exploding! Patience.. this time everyone has to play a role. You won't settle things in anger. Invite to pray, to study. take ablution. When two two are calm. Discuss without emotion. the important thing is. Remember the original intention! Married because of Allah. Look at the problem. Discuss the discharge. Don't focus on the cause. lower your ego and learn to accept and listen. insyaAllah will be better than before fighting.

Situation 4: TESTED WITH HOUBT
temptation: do you want to marry him? but why?. don't you feel young anymore? Many more ambitions to achieve? Are you ready to be a wife? and etc

This one is all natural. Married because I want to accept Allah. If you want to chase the world, until when will we stop chasing? maybe we die running after him. Stop thinking negatively! No one is ready. The most important thing is try to be ready. Seek knowledge (read books, talk and others). Is it a question that I can't be a wife or a daughter that's the experience. Repair from mistakes. example, cooking is not delicious, after this fix the cooking. We won't be perfect. But we can work hard, right? Change the mindset!

Temptation II: is it true that I want to marry him. If you want to say (rich or handsome or good or good or....) that A person looks better than my fiance
* istigfar. back with the original intention. Married because of what? This is a partner even though we clearly see the shortcomings, his weaknesses, we can't hate. even though her face may be full of acne and others. We feel calm looking at it. When you fight, you still feel like being together. Praying to Allah so that the love of him will be stronger, the love of Allah is stronger

Situation 5. PRESSURE OF FAMILY & FAMILY OF FUTURE HUSBAND

Temptation: When you know the family of future couples, setting up dowry, etc, there may be a terrible sense of their decision.

No matter what, we don't judge someone too quickly while we don't know them completely.
Family, feeling hearted in the family, starting to feel right to my mother-in-law will like me, is it true that my brother-in-law will be willing to me, this is all from the devil who always haunts us to cancel our good intentions

Situation 6. STARTING TO BE CAREFUL

After all sorts of tests came over, some of them started to give up and weren't interested in continuing the engagement period.

Survey first the cause of giving heart and try to solve it as long as you can.

Situation 7. EMOTIONS ARE NOT STABILOUS

Some are not happy to sit down when tying the engagement rope. Sometimes sad, angry, too happy, and some keep thinking of his fiance while some have long known his own heart.

When you're friends, you might not feel how serious this relationship is, and how committed you are to a marriage that's about to happen. So, maybe this reason makes you restless and anxious.

Situaso 8. AFRAID OF WRONG DECISION

Temptation: Between phobia and challenges during engagement, some start to show up the real 'attitude'. So, you start to feel doubtful about your choice.

According to Suzana Ghazali, a Syarie Family Psychology Consultant, the Islamic Family Law decides that an individual can obtain a replacement if an engagement is decided by the other side without a strong reason.

Thus, you deserve to receive any form of your gift to her, especially if you spent a lot of money on a wedding to be held.

Situation 9. JEALOUS BLIND

Oh yes, sometimes there are people who suddenly get too jealous and always want to control their fiance's movement. This is a challenge when engagement is common.

While this man is not yet entitled to be obeyed by the woman before pronouncing the marriage ceremony. So is a woman who doesn't have the right to ask for any form of burden from the man.

However, as a Muslim, we must keep our friendship even where we are, whether we are engaged or not

Situation 10. BUSY OF WEDDING MARRIAGE

Busy ahead of wedding ceremony! In the last moment, it's not impossible that it doesn't go as planned. However, this is beyond our control.

Challenges during engagement among them can happen technical mistakes in quotations, change in ceremony, wedding dresses don't fit or wrong sewing, and more

p / s: just share good intentions, want to be halal. It's not easy, there are many challenges that have to be taken before the legal bond.
Want to get married right. whatever it is, every test. Seek Allah! The test is a sign that we need to be stronger with God. May this sharing be blessed. May Allah accept it. Actually, as Muslims, we have to believe that all the challenges during engagement that come are from Allah, as a test to His servants.

Therefore, no matter what the challenges when engaged happen, we should always accept and ask for help from the Almighty. Truly, Allah knows more about something we don't know.

In addition, try to get closer to Allah before we set foot in the household, in preparation of being the leader and mentor of the family institutions that will be established.

As in surah Al-Imran verse 54:

′′ And They Plan, Allah also plans, And ALLAH is the best Planner ′′

📸: Elshaa NatashaaTranslated

This week, The Thirsty Sisters are back with their thoughts on the recent Population Census 2020 survey, where it was reported for women to be more educated than their male counterparts! Why are people on Facebook angry about this increase? Are women really smarter than men? ? We got Sylvia and Nina to react to all these—tune in to hear all about it!

Link to The Straits Times article: https://str.sg/34Sk
Link to the Facebook post: https://www.facebook.com/129011692114/posts/10157967528802115/?d=n

00:00 Intro
01:39 Topic of the day
03:18 Key statistics from the article
04:23 'Its a women problem'
06:27 Why we are having less children
11:00 How women balance work and family
13:30 Coping with your own and your child's issues
15:19 Are we ready to have children?
18:32 The new vs old mindset on single parenthood
21:34 Supporting women regardless of their decisions
22:50 Women are getting harder to get along with?!
26:42 Men have to pay on dates?
29:58 Not taking these comments at face value
32:46 Conclusion

Sylvia and Nina are not your typical influencers; they give it to you raw and real! Join them as they quench their never-ending thirst for wisdom, trends, success and men.

They explore hot and pressing issues you never thought you needed to know in this extremely in-depth podcast. Sisters, brothers and everyone in between or beyond; jump in and be thirsty!

*Disclaimers*
The legal age for sex in Singapore is 18. While being comfortable with your bodies is a must, please protect yourselves by using protection ?
https://singaporelegaladvice.com/law-articles/legal-age-for-sex-in-singapore/

Our views in this podcast include only our own experiences as heterosexual women in Singapore, we respect everyone’s views regardless of genders, gender identities and sexual orientations.

Follow The Thirsty Sisters on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and Instagram!
https://podcasts.apple.com/sg/podcast/the-thirsty-sisters/id1509379792
https://www.instagram.com/thethirstysisterstts
https://open.spotify.com/show/5yx8txjfb7dMkosumEv6lQ?si=5Ew1dv6wRlCayZ0TQfo-Ug

Featuring:
Sylvia - https://www.instagram.com/sylsylnoc
Nina - https://www.instagram.com/ninatsf

Brand collaborations/features:
sales@noc.com.sg

The Thirsty Sisters TEAM
Co-Founders: Sylvia Chan | Nina Tan
Executive Producer: Sylvia Chan
Crew/Editors: Jade Liew | Winston Tay
Motion Graphics Designers: Bryan Seah | Kher Chyn
Sound Engineers: Nah Yu En | Mabel Leong
Digital Strategist: Winston Tay

Getting our Tarot Cards Read is all the buzz right now, yes?

The Thirsty Sisters are back with another episode this week, this time with Geraldine—a Tarot Card Reader and we forced Sylvia to have her Tarot Cards read. How does life after the divorce look for her, and has she moved on from it? What about her ex-husband? What do the cards say about it all? Tune in to find out ?

Geraldine has also kindly offered a very HUAT rate of $88 (U.P. $99) exclusively for our TTS community ? This offer is valid till 30 June 2021 or till she's fully booked so fastest fingers first!
Check out Geraldine on Instagram @friendlyneighbourhoodwitchsg

Timestamps
00:00 intro
01:14 Topic of the Day
02:54 Why Nina isn't getting a reading
03:52 Get to know a tarot card reader
07:26 How to prepare before a tarot reading
08:12 Theme of today's reading: Sylvia's divorce
09:18 Sylvia picks her cards
11:28 Was Sylvia's divorce hard to decide?
14:18 Is Sylvia on the right path?
16:00 A difficult decision is on the way?
18:15 Wedding bells for Sylvia?!
21:20 Will Sylvia fully step out from her divorce?
22:12 How good is Sylvia's reading?
24:30 Can Nina ask questions on Sylvia's behalf?
25:41 How does Ryan feel about Sylvia?
28:05 Is Ryan happy with Sylvia?
29:46 Is Mandy happy with Sylvia's body size?
31:38 Questions from the TTS community ?
32:01 Will COVID-19 end this year?!
33:34 Will TTS make any impact?
34:56 Is Nina and Sylvia Chio Bu SG?!
37:10 How does tarot card reading empower us
38:46 Thoughts on the whole experience
42:05 Does Nina want a reading too?
43:07 Surprise for our TTS community
44:15 Shoutout to small female-owned businesses ?
45:22 Conclusion

Sylvia and Nina are not your typical influencers; they give it to you raw and real! Join them as they quench their never-ending thirst for wisdom, trends, success and men.

They explore hot and pressing issues you never thought you needed to know in this extremely in-depth podcast. Sisters, brothers and everyone in between or beyond; jump in and be thirsty!

*Disclaimers*
The legal age for sex in Singapore is 18. While being comfortable with your bodies is a must, please protect yourselves by using protection ?
https://singaporelegaladvice.com/law-articles/legal-age-for-sex-in-singapore/

Our views in this podcast include only our own experiences as heterosexual women in Singapore, we respect everyone’s views regardless of genders, gender identities and sexual orientations.

Follow The Thirsty Sisters on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and Instagram!
https://podcasts.apple.com/sg/podcast/the-thirsty-sisters/id1509379792
https://www.instagram.com/thethirstysisterstts
https://open.spotify.com/show/5yx8txjfb7dMkosumEv6lQ?si=5Ew1dv6wRlCayZ0TQfo-Ug

Featuring:
Sylvia - https://www.instagram.com/sylsylnoc
Nina - https://www.instagram.com/ninatsf

Brand collaborations/features:
sales@noc.com.sg

The Thirsty Sisters TEAM
Co-Founders: Sylvia Chan | Nina Tan
Executive Producer: Sylvia Chan
Crew/Editors: Jade Liew | Winston Tay
Motion Graphics Designers: Bryan Seah | Kher Chyn
Sound Engineers: Nah Yu En | Mabel Leong
Digital Strategist: Winston Tay

I had a lovely afternoon cooking whilst catching up with you guys. It's a bit of a lengthy one so if you're gonna watch all the way to the end, feel free to grab a snack and beverage!!


Questions asked:

What are your recent little victories?
If you could (without worrying about family), where would you move to?
How do you deal with uncertainty of your future?
What can one do to maintain sense of identity in a relationship?
What would you say to 10 year old you, past you and yesterday you?
Have you grown up to be who you thought you would be?
How do you know when you’re ready for a relationship?
Was it hard transitioning from one child to two?
What is your favourite date with RG?
How do you know if someone is right for you?
How do you like to start your mornings?
What emotions do you feel the most recently?
Have you tried Brazilian wax?
Do you think you will talk about your divorce as a way to comfort other women?
What are you and RG’s love language?
How can I not let hate comments get to me and stop seeking approval?
What are 5 things RG makes you feel that you couldn’t previously?
How do you deal with toxic family members who you love?

Here is the recipe I followed (I added seafood and used chicken instead for this day):
TOFU STEW RECIPE: https://www.koreanbapsang.com/kimchi-soondubu-jjigae-soft-tofu-stew-kimchi/

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Love, Lindy xo



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