【女人的難題是父權製造出來的】
「1949 年,西蒙.波娃(Simone de Beauvoir)在其著作《第二性》中的名言『On ne naît pas femme, on le deviant』(女人是形成的,不是生成的),經過七十年之後,父權社會不只持續著『女人的形成╱養成』,同時也繼續『男人的形成╱養成』。在這七十年期間,女性主義發展已經從爭取女性的政治參與、經濟參與、性自主,乃至於到了後殖民、後女性主義(postfeminism)的重視差異而非單一的平等的途徑,但『作為女人』的難處依舊。」
「為什麼性別平權價值逐漸普遍,但一般女性還是經常在某些時刻的性別情境上出現『卡卡的』的情況?台灣女性勞動參與率早已突破 50%,政治參與比例也在亞洲國家名列前茅,甚至年輕世代也都一再認為自己身處性別平等的『政治正確』年代,已無需要再多討論女性的被壓迫經驗與結構,但為什麼『身為女人』的難題依舊未解?」
「父權社會現在普遍支持女性在政治與經濟(特別是連結到公領域的部分)的投入,但在社會文化(特別是連結到私領域的部分)面向對女性的規範依舊保守,女性經常必須兩者兼顧,而陷入兩難困境,一旦兩者稍有衝突,常被迫面臨選擇。社會與文化面向的『父權家庭』(patriarchal family)的性別結構,是構成女性在生活難題的特別關鍵要素。」
「父權家庭一再強調簡化的性別二元對立,早已深植人心,讓人把二元對立性別的社會性建構錯認為主體本質性發展,並設下角色規範,舉凡越界或逃逸者,則施以懲罰、汙名與羞辱。父權家庭特別重視父子繼嗣法則(patrilineal descent principle),女性在父權家庭的功能與角色即環繞在此一法則的傳承、維持與運作的協助。」
「父權家庭中的女人一生樣貌諸如,像『前世情人』的女兒、令人讚嘆的『出得廳堂、入得廚房、上得牙床』的太太、犧牲奉獻的媽媽、乖巧懂事的媳婦、辛苦多年終熬成婆的婆婆等,沒有一個不是在考驗著女人『如何作為父權體制下的女人』,最終目的在於持續溫飽與茁壯父權體制。」
引文摘錄自
王曉丹等著,《這是愛女,也是厭女:如何看穿這世界拉攏與懲戒女人的兩手策略?】,大家出版 Common Master Press,2019。
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In conjunction with International Women's Day, I wanted to share with you my aspirations for women in Malaysia. My aspirations would be things we can work towards over the next three decades (hopefully earlier!) as we implement the National Transformation 2050 vision for Malaysia.
Of course, first and foremost on my mind is to make sure that by 2050 Malaysia is no longer a patriarchal and misogynistic society that objectifies women and focuses more on how she should look and what she should wear than the content of her character.
By 2050, no one should think that it's fine to make crude, suggestive remarks about women completely violating their dignity. No one should be stupid enough to suggest that sexual harassment or crimes are the fault of the woman for what they wear.
By 2050, I want a Malaysia where women feel confident and secure enough to pursue their dreams and be ambitious. And that ambition is something that is not used against them.
By 2050, I want a society which allows every single woman to fulfill their true potential. For their contribution to the nation, even as a homemaker or mother, to be acknowledged. For the workplace to be flexible enough to allow for people to choose to work and raise a family.
By 2050, I want a society that values our female athletes for their sporting achievement and not obsess about what they are wearing.
By 2050, men who don't pay child support should be jailed.
And hopefully by 2050, we would have a female prime minster.
As for the rest of my aspirations for women in the future, I want to share with you the aspirations of a friend of mine whom I have a lot of respect for. I think she speaks not only for me but many Malaysians who want to see a more fair, just and equal society.
For a woman to be able to go out alone or jog in the park morning or night and feel safe.
For men (and women) to learn to truly respect women as human beings, not objects to be peddled or shamed or trivialised. With real respect there would be less objectification, less gender discrimination/prejudice, less domestic violence, less online bullying/shaming, less 'casual' sexual harassment, less predation.
For women to be hungry for success and excellence, to not hold back and try to please, to go after what they want, including becoming Prime Minister! And for society to help women be hungry and to flourish, to have a narrative and platforms where women can see themselves as prime movers, rather than doubting themselves or being unambitious or making themselves objects. Girls, you are not defined by the amount of likes you get on social media.
For men, women, society and the government to acknowledge that the role of women is complex and heavy - we work the same as any man, we have careers, ambitions and dreams, yet we also play a key role as mothers, wives, home-makers, core component of family units. The role of women in today's society is changing, evolving and therefore the treatment of women and expectations of women must also evolve and change with the times.
For domestic and sexual violence against women, physical and psychological, to be seen as absolutely unacceptable in the eyes of society and the law. This value would be reflected in everything from public attitudes to authorities' emergency response procedures to sentencing.
By 2050 for there to be no more need for discussions on the challenges women are having today - at school, at work, in society. So what if you are a woman - you can just do whatever you feel passionate about and whatever you believe in. No need for quotas. Gender is irrelevant.
If you feel strongly about these aspirations and want to organise a TN50 dialogue on women/gender issues, please email sekretariat@mytn50.com I will be happy to join you for that conversation.
Happy International Women's Day. In the words of the great 21st century bard, "Who run the world?"
p.s. Before comments come in about why this post is in English, it is to acknowledge that today is an international day of celebration. Plus by 2050, you all should really be bilingual. In the meantime, get a dictionary.
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「從夫姓」這件事,我很想問問大家的意見!結婚許久,我一直沒冠夫姓也沒從夫姓,在台灣也沒有這樣的問題,但,每每在南法的家庭聚會都會提到這個,法國人怎麼會這麼古板?還是因為我嫁給外國人,所以我真的必須放棄自己的姓氏?我一直以為外國人的女權主義比亞洲還強大,但我好像錯了!
請大家評評理吧!
為什麼不是男人跟女人姓?
為什麼女人要順從男人?為什麼不是男人順從?
為什麼女人嫁到夫家要做牛做馬?而男人就只出一張嘴?只出一指神功滑手機電腦?還要我們跟你們姓?
為什麼???????????
而且,這世界就是一個重男輕女的世界,歐美各國女性結了婚就要冠夫姓,這是父權主義的產物;阿拉伯女人不能露臉更別說露身體,這是也是父權主義下的犧牲者;日本女人要服侍先生,就連韓國偶像劇劇情多半也是如此,在中國一胎化的問題,讓多少的家庭因為生了女兒而必須遺棄?!在在的這些都是父權主義下的產物,這,對女性公平嗎?
現在,雙薪家庭比比皆是,男女平等也是應該,我們是在21世紀不是19世紀啊!!!!
為所有的女性吶喊!!!!!!
我們要的是尊重,要的是平等!
如果要我們做什麼,就請你們跟我們同步!以示公平!
Crown husband's name or not?
I would like to ask everyone's opinion! Married for a long time, I did not crown husband's surname.
In Taiwan, there is no problem about this, it even an old school way not a lot of people do it.
but, on the family gathering in southern France keep talking about this. how French people can be so old-fashioned? Or because I am married to a foreigner, so I really have to give up my surname? I always thought that foreigner's feminists also stronger than Asia, but I feel like I was wrong!
Please let's talk about it.
Why do not change the surname of the man and woman at the same time?
Why women should obey men? Why do not men obey women?
Why women have to do anything? The men just use their tongue talking non stop? Only use one finger slide phone or computer all the time?
why? ? ? ? ?
Moreover, this world is a patriarchal world, Europe and the United States women married need to crown husband's surname, which is the product of patriarchal; Arab women can not show their face, the body, the hair, which is also under the patriarchal Victim; Japanese women need to serve their husbands, and even most of the Korean idol drama too, China's one-child issues, some of the family because was born a daughter must be abandoned? ! Those are the product of patriarchal, is it fair for the women?
Now, double-income families everywhere, it should be gender equality, we are in the 21st century, not the 19th century ah! ! ! !
for all women! ! ! ! ! !
What we want is respect, what we need is equality!
If you want us to do something , we ask you to sync with us! for a fair!
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