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Be Who You Are, Not What Others Want You To Be!❤

Why are you single? When are you going to get married? When are you having kids? Why you don't have kids? Why is she/he divorced? What happened to them? Why are they like that? Why and why and why people like to ask these insensitive questions, being prejudice, stereotyping, speculates, gossips, and make inappropriate judgments.

How can you ask something that someone can't 100% control, just like death? Some things are unknown, it's like asking, when are you going to die? It's common sense. If you don't know this answer, means you won't know the exact why for such questions.

When someone is single by choice or it's not just the right time for them, let it be. So what if that person wants to be or will be single forever? It may be better for the person than being with the wrong partner for the rest of the person's life. You don't meddle with God's plan or even someone's choices. You can't force people to get into relationships, what's more marriage. If it is forced, how can a marriage be happy and whole? Love is a huge topic. Again it's not just about relationships and marriage.

People should not pretend to be stupid, play dumb, needy, spoiled, or fake just to attract/be with a life partner. Women and men should have their own intelligence, personality, independence, and truthfulness in life. We want to be real and genuine, and if someone wants us to be part of their life, it's better for them to know the real us from the get-go. Not presenting a false front.

A healthy relationship should be two individuals who love and care for each other, support, motivate, respect, be kind, honest, loyal, help, guide, communicate well, listen and give the very best to each other, by also being the best version of themselves. Not one person should be superior to the other or vice versa. If you feel forced and put yourself down for another person, you are probably in the wrong relationship.

Put aside status, education level, salary, or position in career, a partner and a healthy relationship should be side by side, be supportive, help each other, understand each other strengths and weaknesses, able to give and take/compromise, and open to learning from each other when it comes to marriage or any relationship.

A woman's or man's characteristics for example being soft or strong, and men prefer soft/more feminine women, and women who are less intelligent/educated than them, should not be generalized. Some men admire women who are intelligent/educated, strong, and independent and women have their preferences too. Different people are attracted to different traits. No one size fits all.

No one should pretend to be less than she/he is for the opposite partner to feel desirable or dominant. If a person desperately and constantly trying to boost their ego, be dominant or prove power especially in a relationship, this may lead to negative behavioral patterns and impacts such as emotional instability, harassment, abuse, bullying, verbal and physical violence, unhappiness, and depression.

We are all individuals in the end and have our differences. As a human being, one of the goals in life is trying to be better than we were yesterday. Trying to change ourselves for the sake of pleasing someone and pretending just to make someone feel happy or superior is not healthy and can jeopardize our own mental health and also the relationship in the long run.

If we want to change something, for example, I want to be more fitter, healthier, happier, smarter, financially independent, and so forth, it is for ourselves (without being selfish or self-absorbed). If we take care of ourselves first then we can take care of others better. Do for yourself and the motivation will be sustainable than doing for other people.

Respect and love yourself. Respect the people around you. Then we should not be degrading or intimidate anyone. This will make you a better person. We attract what we are.

Life is unique, so does human beings. Life itself is bigger than getting married, having kids, make tons of money, and so forth. This is the typical life cycles, stages and goals we all have learned in our life. The strong pressures in society dictate what is better and not just because that's what it is for the past generations have been. The pressure to fit in with society's standards and expectations is also there.

As a society and individual, let's understand deeper that not everyone will have the same life cycles and even life goals. There are things we can control and can't control. Not everything that is good for you is going to be good for other people. Having or not having something can be a blessing and sometimes only God knows why.

In life, some may walk their path of life and make choices completely different from us and that's perfectly fine. We all have our own unique journey and that makes us different, and we can use that differences to make life better for ourselves and the life of others.

Let this sink in.

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Many might not realized it but lockdown life are different for all.

Some can comfortably stay at home and work,

some couldn't as getting bill done or even getting food on the table is a big issue,😢

some risk their life just to keep us save without much rest,😭

and some just wanna make life difficult for all.🙄

We are all people with brains, so please think and behave.

Although the monkey are running the country now but don't lah go and be a monkey too.

The dumbest and selfish comment I even read is "They can do that, why not me. They should set an example for us to follow. Their rules are stupid."

I'm like " yes I agree they are doing a bad job tapi eh dorang bodo u pun mau ikut bodo ka, ur brain kat lutut issit, kena suap tak boleh think urself issit."

Yang ni just to refer to those who tak behave. Anyway siapa makan cili, dia yang rasa pedas. Lol

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Have you ever noticed that it seems to take forever for water to boil if stand in front of the stove waiting?1⃣This is the source of the expression “a watched pot never boils,” which means that when you want something to happen, paying close attention will make the wait seem much longer. Ex: Don’t just sit there next to the phone waiting for Lisa to call—a watched pot never boils.
不知道你有沒有注意到，煮水的時候你要是一直站在爐火前等，這等待的時間彷彿就像永遠一樣長？這種感覺正好是諺語a watched pot never boils「某事是急不得的」的由來，意思是：當你越希望某件事情能發生，給它越多關注，那件事情就似乎越晚才會發生。如：Don’t just sit there next to the phone waiting for Lisa to call—a watched pot never boils.（不要只是坐在電話旁邊等麗莎打給你──心急吃不了熱豆腐。）

Pots and kettles left on the stove for a long time tend to turn black. So if the pot calls the kettle black, well, the pot is probably black too. 2⃣ So this idiom is used to describe people criticising another person for a fault they have themselves. Ex: Robert accused me of being selfish—talk about the pot calling the kettle black!
要是把鍋跟煮水壺放在爐火上越久，顏色就會變深變黑。所以如果鍋子笑水壺黑，嗯，鍋子自己也是黑的啊。因此，諺語the pot calls the kettle black就是「五十步笑百步」的意思：Robert accused me of being selfish—talk about the pot calling the kettle black!（羅伯罵我自私──拜託，他是五十步笑百步好嗎！）

When you prepare meat to make a stew, you cut it up into tiny pieces and put in the pot. 3⃣ So the phrase “go to pot” came to mean “deteriorate, decline, be ruined.” Ex: Their business went to pot during the recession.
如果你要燉肉，你會把肉切成小塊再放入鍋裡，因此入鍋（go to pot）延伸有「毀壞、衰弱、完蛋」的意思，像是：Their business went to pot during the recession.（經濟蕭條期間，他們的公司也一起完蛋。）

4⃣But not all pots are made for cooking—like chamber pots, for example. You’d have to be pretty poor not to be able to afford a chamber pot, so if someone “doesn’t have a pot to piss in,” it means they’re very poor. Ex: Steve can’t lend you the money—he doesn’t have a pot to piss in.
不過呢，並非所有的鍋子都是用來煮飯的──像便壺（chamber pot）就不是。便壺這種東西，除非你是非常窮，否則不太可能買不起，因此，如果你說某人doesn’t have a pot to piss in（沒有便壺可小便），就是在暗示那個人非常窮困。如：Steve can’t lend you the money—he doesn’t have a pot to piss in.（史提夫不可能借你錢──他自己都窮到快被鬼抓走。）

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Many have questioned why we sent  our kids to school at such an early age. Many have also been wondering what type of activities they do at school. Well, Ali joined school at the age of 2. He was the earliest amongst our three children to start school. It was different back when we had our first son, Omar Mukhtar. We proudly educated him from home until he was aged 5, when it was compulsory for him to join school.

We were planning to do the same with Fatimah too, but she had been requesting us to send her to school ever since she turned 2. She adores her Lalajee so much that listening to his school stories made her want to join even more! Because of her enthusiasm, we finally agreed to send her off to school when she turned 3. Then, that led to a new problem!

As you know, Fatimah and Ali are very close. They are like twins -  they can’t be separated! I can still remember that every day without fail, Ali would sit by the window, crying his heart out. He refused to eat or do anything until Fatimah came back! And when Fatimah stepped through the door, the first thing he said to her was “Fatimah, I’m hungry. I want to eat!” As if he was left alone and we were invisible to him! With a heavy heart, we had to let him go, even though he was only 2 at the time.

So for a year, they had so much fun going to the same school. And then again, this year, they got separated once again because Fatimah has now joined primary school! As you know, Ali was struggling with the separation, but we can see that he is slowly adapting to the changes!

FYI, I’ve recently started sharing Ali’s school diary on our FB story to give you an idea of what he does at school. My intention was to show that the activities that they do in school daily can be easily recreated at home! For example, baking, role playing, arts & crafts etc. We do activities with the kids a lot at home & I believe that many other parents are doing the same thing too!

So, don’t worry if your children are not ready for school yet because there are so many things you can do together at home, unless you have other commitments and you have no choice but to send them anyway. Do things that work for your family, not just because somebody else is doing it and you think that you have to do the same thing too! At the end of the day, we want to raise happy and healthy kids, not shaping them to be a genius robot! Believe me, if i had a choice, I would be more than happy to keep Ali at home for as long as I could, but just because he is happier to go to school like his brother and sister, I won’t be selfish and keep him away!

“Even though we send our kids to school, we always believe that education should start at home and we as parents must take full responsibility to educate our children!”
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Related Article: ‘The Secret Ingredients of Education’ - Written by Omar Mukhtar.
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https://thepawsomelion.wordpress.com/2017/04/02/the-secret-ingredients-of-education/