【做自己最好的資源】BE YOUR BEST RESOURCE
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改命，最基本的條件是什麼？
我的經驗告訴我，你必須先對自己的人生有要求。
再來就是，你願意爲你的要求付出多少？
態度一錯，全盤棋就亂了，看多少師父也沒有用。
沒有一個八字是完美的，可是改命，最怕就是與別人「同流合污」，隨波逐流。
你想做的事情，你家人不喜歡，你伴侶不支持，你朋友質疑你，那怎麼辦？
當你降低自己的人生要求，來迎合別人的喜怒哀樂時，你是失去還是得到？
坦白說，人是自私的。你的至親如果和你不一樣，她他便不一定會協助你達到夢想。無論是女客人還是男客人，我都曾看過他們的家人如何成爲他們的絆腳石，又或者，在他們鞋子裡的那一顆沙，他們越是走得遠，越是不舒服及愧疚。
來找我之前，這些你必需理清楚，你的人生是爲誰而活？我的工作態度是出了名的認真，看命不是兒戲，而是你爲自己人生負責的一個起點。
話說回來，我活了一大把年紀（勤奮的話，孩子都一堆了），從沒看過爲別人而活的人是真正的幸福快樂。
有的人覺得平凡就是福，但請別把「失去自己」和「平凡」混為一談。
我相信吸引力法則。當你對你的人生有要求，又肯爲此付出時，持之以恆，你自然會吸引到你需要的資源，也當然包括我。
我喜歡莫莉這句話：「當眼前的環境給你的是一片沙漠，你要成爲你自己的綠洲。」
努力過，你才會驚嘆，原來你差一點錯過了自己。
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What is the most basic condition to transform your Destiny?
My experience tells me that you must first have expectations of your own life.
Then, you need to ask yourself how much work you are willing to put in to actualise those expectations.
If your attitude towards your own destiny is wrong right at the beginning, this whole chess of Life is gonna be a mess, no matter how many Masters you consulted.
No Bazi is perfect, but what is most fearful is mixing with the "wrong" company or following the herd.
Say you wish to do something, but your family doesn't like it, your partner isn't supportive, and your friends are doubtful of you. What are you gonna do?
Raise the bar or lower your expectations of Life?
If you do the latter, to please the people around you, are you winning or losing?
Frankly speaking, humans are selfish. If your loved ones have a different expectation of life, he or she may not wish to lend you a helping hand or shoulder to cry on, as you pursue what you need to change your destiny.
Be it my male or female clients, I have witnessed how their family and friends became that obstructing boulder in their lives. Or worse, that persistent grain of sand in their shoes that they can never throw out. And the further they trek, the more discomfort and guilt they will feel.
Before you come and seek my services, this is something you got to figure out for yourself. Who are you actually living for? You know I take my job very seriously. It's not Play-Doh time when you and I go through your Bazi analysis. It is the starting point of you taking more responsibility for your own life.
Come to think of it, having lived to my age (if I had been diligent, I would have been the mother hen to a brood of kids), I have never seen a very happy person, who is happy because he/she lived for others.
Some people think that being ordinary is also happiness. But please do not confuse "being ordinary" as "losing yourself".
I believe in the Law of Attraction. When you have expectations of your own life and are willing to work for it, overtime you will attract the resources that you need to make things happen for you. And that includes me, darling.
I like this quote of Molly, "When the environment in front of you is merely a desert, you must become your own oasis."
After you put in the due effort, you will be marvelling at how you nearly missed out on yourself.
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