關於 以身作則english ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

【來碎唸一下最近關於壓力的思考】


講真心話，其實這幾天我感覺壓力蠻大的，所以連著兩天，每天我都睡超過十五個小時，除了必須起來上課、諮商，每天吃完飯洗完澡做定課後，我就陷入長長的睡眠裡。這種身體狀況我很熟悉，只要我開始不自主地想長時間睡覺，要不是情緒起伏很大、要不就備感壓力，而這幾天，我認為兩者都有。


過去，我很常因為這股壓力而躁進，只要能紓解壓力的事，我都迫不及待去做。比如說不管不顧的取捨、不休不息的工作。當然，在我還沒受酒戒的那個年代，酒精、藥物是最能暫時丟棄壓力的良伴，那時候喝個酒睡過一晚，或者是吃藥睡更多晚，反正能就此拖過壓力終止線的方式，我認為都是好方法。所以那個時候常常發生的狀況是：如果這件事讓我感到重重的壓力，我就用這個方法拖延過去，然後等到木已成舟或不需選擇，我就用「自己很廢」來說服自己接受後果。但現在，無法再用這些方式，使得我必須好好面對壓力的這股狀態。


「壓力中心不是內在權威，所以不該因為壓力而衝動做決定。」這是我在學習人類圖時，對於壓力這件事我特別標出來提醒自己的話，因為過去有關壓力的議題，不管我是因此做了決定，還是做了不作為的決定，結果都令我失落，所以我也想過：這世界上有多少人把壓力當成做決定的權威？


這陣子的壓力是甚麼？


會開始開讀書會，有兩種原因：一是因為疫情的關係，我原本的演出工作很多都停擺，所以讀書會帶領人是我的斜槓。二是當夥伴時段帶領人將一年的時間了，對於與大眾討論人類圖的內容與方式，我並不滿足於夥伴時段的條件限制。所以這股要把讀書會開成的壓力，有現實的經濟考量，也有類如創業、創新的挑戰。可是在投入這件事前，我曾給自己一個目標：「我必須具備熱情與喜悅快樂的跟大家分享我的體驗」。


很實際的狀況是，從開始的顯示者讀書會，到現在正在推行的投射者、生產者，報名都不是一下子就能讓我心安的狀況，尤其現在的兩場讀書會，都是只有一兩個人報名的狀況。在推廣這件事情上，有些做法我是不願意的，比如說硬邀任何一個認識的人來參加、或者打出旗號語帶威脅地說沒有下次，我真的沒有意願這樣做。畢竟我是因為覺得回到內在權威及策略，是舒服而美好的一件事想跟大家分享，我當然希望每個來參加的人，也都是經過內在權威及策略所做的決定。身為4/6人的我，學了人類圖之後一直有一件事是放在心裡的：如果我都不能以身作則的親身試驗，我無法隨口向人誇口。


所以，這段時間在經歷這件事的壓力時，我又反覆的一再回來問我自己：「熱情跟喜悅還在嗎？如果覺得不開心，那就不要分享錯的能量給別人。」


所幸，熱情與喜悅還在，我很自知的是比起賣弄高深的知識學問，我更願意用實際的方法及經驗分享，讓參加者體驗差異，我對成功的讀書會定義是：「參加的人能因為這些方法而在生活上過得更好」。至於這過程有沒有人類圖的知識？這一切當然得建立在我對知識的掌握與熟習。


確認了這件事，我的壓力似乎就得到另一種轉換。所以就算人很少，只要滿足最基本的開銷條件，我就會如期舉行。該準備的我已備足，即便這次這次沒開成，條件許可我會持續開下去，我是路希恩，我喜歡用跟別人不同的方式來讓大家了解你自己，我專心走好自己的路，只待你準備好回應加入。


文字/路希恩


路希恩的人類圖活動：

人類圖夥伴時段
11月15日(日) 13:30-15:00情緒中心與30號閘門
11月20日(五) 19:30-21:00情緒中心與55號閘門
地點：全方位商務中心 (台北市中山區復興北路166號5樓)
報名：https://www.surveycake.com/s/rNon0

人類圖讀書會靠北系列2-靠北生產者，生產者來戰！
時間：11/01、11/08、11/15、11/22 星期日10：00-12：00
地點：愛無限共享空間(台北市中山北路一段126巷12-1號)
報名：https://humandesign.org.cn/play/detail/80079

人類圖讀書會靠北系列3-靠北投射者，投射者來戰！
時間：11/02、11/09、11/16、11/23 星期一 19：00-21：00
地點：IN BAR / 台中市西區明義街76巷1號
報名：https://humandesign.org.cn/play/detail/80080

🇸🇬 (English writing below)

家園，最最最重要的建設材料是一個心字。某人問國父李光耀先生，我國會有另一個五十年嗎？如果這某人來問吾的話，吾會堅定的告訴他，會。但，吾會補上一席話，那就是每一個國民，必需交出一個心字來。因爲，有這一個心字，才能產生一種非比尋常的力量，來合力斷金啊！

吾，玳瑚師父，個人認爲，在玄學方面，我國應叫石樂坡，而不是新加坡。吾所說的這番話，就是心話，就是以身作則的，用心來維護我們的家園。

❤️ 吾的祖國，生日快樂。🎉

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The heart is the utmost important building material of a home. Someone asked our founding father, Mr Lee Kuan Yew, if Singapore could run for another 50 years. If this person asked me the same question, my answer will be a resolute YES. However, I will add that we need every countryman to put his and her heart into it. Because with their hearts in it, this collective intention can generate an extraordinary level of force to cut through metal and overcome all odds!

Master Dai Hu feels that the Chinese name of our country should be 石樂坡 instead of 新加坡. This is truly from my heart.

To my Motherland, Happy Birthday.

《玳瑚師父的看見（四）》(English version below)
THE SIGHTINGS OF MASTER DAI HU 4

在十五前，吾常光顧一間叫「翡翠上海小籠包」的中餐館。它的正對面開有一家，在日本赫赫有名的POKKA CAFE。吾，玳瑚師父，是一位懂得吃的人。而真正懂得吃的人，不會侷限於某一種菜色。中餐、西餐、日本餐、義大利餐、韓國餐、泰國餐、越南餐、印度餐等等，吾一律接納。喔！這麼多的美食當前，衣服與地上，沒有半點痕跡，可見吾的內力，著實不淺啊！（一笑）後來爲了吾的客人，有較安靜以及較舒適的環境，吾才開始踏入日本POKKA CAFE。

在這間咖啡屋，吾享用到甚有水準的夏威夷義大利麵，以及吾超愛的奶昔。單單這兩樣飲食，吾已留連忘返。也因爲這樣，專業的助理領班，見吾到來就曉得吾會點什麼。若吾沒見客人時，大多數都是自己，一個人前來用餐。助理領班與其下屬，就乘機過來與吾聊幾句。漸漸的我們就較爲熟路了，她就向吾傾訴有關這裡的經理，名不副實。雖貴爲經理，卻不以身作則的帶領其下的團隊，把這間日式咖啡座給打理好，反而遲到早退，繁忙時不見人影，愛與美眉講黃色笑話，等等。吾聽了問她難道老闆不知嗎？她告知吾日本公司不裁退職員的。吾見她懷才不遇，但卻是一個勤奮有責的好員工。於是吾就運用吾的眼力，望一望那經理一眼，然後跟她說，那經理很快就會被裁退的。事實經吾預言後不久，那經理真被公司給辭退了。

在東北地區的一間組屋單位，吾受邀來此提供問事。欲問事的並不是，女屋主本人，而是她多年的女人。吾落座於她客廳的沙發，一邊與她閒聊，一邊等她的友人回來。等了好一會兒，她的友人終於歸來。這名女屋主是女傭介紹公司的老闆娘，故家中會有幾位在培訓中的女傭。其友人問完後，吾看見女傭群中，有一位較「特別」的女傭，正對著吾微笑。因為她的「特別」，吾就立馬囑咐女老闆，一定要將這位較「特別」的女傭，留在她身邊，勿將她推介出去。女老闆當然問吾為什麼，記得吾當時告訴她說，這位女傭未來會很幫得上妳。若干年後，她命逢劫數時，身文只剩四十元，這位女傭不只陪伴她，沒有離她而去，還自掏腰包買飯給她吃呢！這些是她親口告訴吾的，她感謝吾，也終於明白，為何當初吾囑咐她，一定要將這位較「特別」的女傭，留在她身邊。

每個人的善惡，每個人的動機，每個人的未來走勢，都已「寫」在其臉上。懂得看的人，才是能稱得上察顏觀色的高手。也算是他她心通了。人的臉就好比氣象局，當一個人悲傷欲流淚之時，其臉必是陰天。當一個人要捉狂發怒時，其臉必呈現狂風暴雨、或龍捲風、或落上風、或雷霆萬軍之相。（一笑）當一個人開心快活時，其臉必是晴天，甚至是豔陽高照。當一個人在密運中，其臉必是春天。當一個人事業有成、生意賺錢之時，其臉必是夏天。當一個人滿懷心事時，其臉必是秋天。當一個人困難重重、身體有恙之時，其臉必是冬天。那位POKKA CAFE 的經理，臉色已入秋冬，因此吾狠批他即將被裁退。那位較特別的女傭，臉色呈晴天，因此吾囑咐女老闆，將她留在自己身邊。若你妳有用人之惑，玳瑚師父是你的首選。

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I used to frequent a Chinese restaurant named Crystal Jade Shanghai Xiao Long Bao about 15 years ago. Opposite this restaurant was another eatery, Pokka Cafe, a renowned restaurant in Japan. I, Master Dai Hu, am someone who knows how to eat. A person who truly knows how to eat will not restrict himself/herself to one particular cuisine. I accept all types of cuisine: Chinese, Western, Japanese, Italian, Korean, Thai, Vietnamese, Indian, etc. Wow! With such a huge spread of cuisine in front of me, yet there isn't any trace of saliva on my shirt or on the floor, this shows how strong my inner strength is! (laughs) Out of consideration for my clients, that they may have a more serene and comfortable environment, I started to patronise the Pokka Cafe of Japan.

At this cafe, I enjoyed their high-quality Hawaiian spaghetti dish and my favourite milk tea. These two dishes always have me going back for more. As such, the professional assistant captain would straightaway know my order when she saw me. When I was not meeting clients, I would dine there alone. The assistant captain and her staff would seize the chance and come over to chat. Soon, we got on more familiar terms. She then told me about the restaurant manager whom she said was not living up to his title. Despite being a manager, he did not set a good example. He failed to lead his staff and mange the restaurant well. Instead, he would come to work late, leave early, and often disappeared during the restaurant’s peak period. He also enjoyed telling dirty jokes to young pretty female staff, etc. After listening to her, I asked if the boss knew about it. She replied that it was not the culture of a Japanese company to dismiss its employees. I saw that she was not recognised for her contribution despite being a responsible and hardworking staff. Therefore I use the prowess of my sight and took a glance at the restaurant manager. Thereafter, I told the staff that the manager would soon be made redundant. The truth is, not long after my prediction, the restaurant manager indeed got the sack from the company.

I was invited to a flat unit situated in the North-eastern part of our country, to provide divination service. The session was not meant for the lady owner of the house, but for a lady friend whom she had known for many years. I was seated on the sofa, and chatting with the lady owner while waiting for her friend to arrive. We waited for some time before her friend finally came. The lady owner was the boss of a maid agency, and that explained the many maids undergoing training in her house.

When the session with her friend ended, I spotted one particularly “extraordinary” maid among the group smiling slightly at me. Because of her "extraordinariness", I immediately advised the lady owner to keep this maid by her side always and not refer her to others. Naturally, she asked me why. I remembered telling her, " This maid would be of help to you in time to come." Many years later, misfortune struck and this lady boss was left with only $40 in her possession. This maid not only stayed with her but also bought meals for the lady boss with her own money. The lady boss recounted this incident to me and was grateful for my advice. She finally understood the reason for my advice to keep this “extraordinary” maid by her side.

Our every deed, virtuous or non-virtuous, our every motive and future development, are all clearly “written” on our faces. One who knows how to read these signs can be regarded as an accomplished face reading expert. This ability is also known as having the penetrating knowledge of the mind. A human's face is like a weather station. When a person is grieving, the face shows a gloomy day. When a person is enraged, the face is stormy with hurricanes or roaring with thunder. (laughs) When When he is happy and joyful, the face will show a clear day, with even the sun riding high in the sky. When he is in a romance, the face will show signs of Spring. When he is successful in his career and his business raking in the profits, it is summer time on the face. When he is pensive and worrisome, the face becomes autumn-like. And when he is fraught with challenges and stricken by ailments, the face will manifest the winter season. The face of the Pokka Cafe’s manager was showing auras of Autumn and Winter. That was why I boldly predicted that he would lose his job soon. On the other hand, the face of the “extraordinary” maid was showing a clear day. Hence I advised the lady boss to hold on to her. Should you have doubts on who to employ, I, Master Dai Hu, am your first choice for advice!

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【開放預購】PRE-ORDER OPEN
《向善向上 2》Towards Kindness, Towards Betterment 2

心可造天堂，心可造地獄。
改命必從心起，改運必先行動。

30則真人真事的度眾故事 30 real-life deliverance stories of Master Dai Hu
全彩色的漫畫 Comics in full colour illustration
中英文翻譯 In both English & Mandarin
192頁 192 pages

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The mind can create Heaven. It can also create Hell.
Transformation of your destiny begins from your mind.
Transformation of your luck begins from taking action.

My new book should reach the shores of Singapore in 1st week of December 2018. Pre-order is now open and the books are estimated to be mailed out through Smartpac, by 15 December. At the same time, it will be on the shelves of Taiwan KingStone bookshops.

The economical price includes global delivery (Smartpac mailing for Singapore addressees, registered mail for overseas mailing).
Looking forward to your enthusiastic support! May everybody has a copy and gift copies of this virtuous book to your family and friends and together, embrace a beautiful future!

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【抄牌大戰】
網友：「Laiming Tong / Jocy Tong 兩夫婦用粗口不停鬧炒牌警察，post上group馬鞍山之友想公審個警察反被公審，現已退group。不知所謂，毫無廉恥。嗱！有D警察呢...EQ真係好高！」

已經加上由網友Cillian Chu提供之英文字幕，歡迎開啟觀看，謝謝。Please turn on captions for English subtitles.
Credits: Cillian Chu

阿囡：爸B過黎吖！
阿仔：好野！放上網！
阿媽：你唔該快D啦，我真係返學呀，趕時間呀！你講野啦，你答啦，你而家又唔答！
個仔：快D呀！
阿媽：人地擔正黎做吖嘛，唔緊要，你咪做囉！咁你而家駁嘴啦，你又唔駁！
阿爸：睇你老母生仔有冇屎忽啦！吖，專登重要走出黎截鳩人，屌，九唔撚搭八！屌你老母特首都有犯法啦柒頭！
阿Sir：特首已經接受緊呢個法律程序！
阿爸：法你老母啦！讀多D書啦！
阿媽：你快D啦，我趕時間，我真係趕住返學呀！
阿爸：屌你老母！
阿媽：你搏表現都唔使咁啦下話！
阿Sir：罰告票唔係我咩表現架！
阿爸：唉，食屎啦！快D啦！
阿Sir：罰告票唔係咩表現黎架！
阿爸：屌你老母，做多兩年啦你！
阿Sir：我唔止兩年呀，仲有廿幾年慢慢做呀！
阿爸：係吖，屌你老母啦！
阿Sir：大家咁話吓！
阿爸：睇你老母遲早生仔啦，屌你老母臭閪！
阿Sir：我老母生咗個仔啦，個仔就係我啦！
阿爸：吓？
阿媽：你快D啦，你耽幾耐呀！我就遲到啦！
阿爸：見撚到你咁既性格乞兒狗真係屌你老母！
阿媽：你快D啦，比你抄你都要快D啦，我趕住返學呀，你見我湊咁多o靚仔！
阿爸：唔係唔比你抄呀，$450你都咁撚犯賤既你真係！屌你老母，你日日係果度睇，你老母係人，的士你做一架唔做一架，同你講sorry啦！你老母臭閪，你懶係型咁，你冚家鏟！得未呀！寫咁撚耐架！
阿Sir：寫緊呀等等呀！
阿爸：屌你老母讀多幾年書啦，幫辦呀，柒頭！
阿媽：寫幾個字都寫到咁慢！
阿Sir：做老散有做老散嘅樂趣既！
阿爸：樂你老母咩樂！
阿囡：爸B唔好嘈啦！
阿媽：我淨係知你寫張告票寫左三分鐘囉！影低曬架啦！
阿Sir：你咪影囉！我係寫左三分鐘架！無問題架！
阿爸：呢度洗唔洗抄多張呀？皇帝！黃線！
阿Sir：呢個唔需要抄，呢個係…
阿媽：你快D啦，你快D啦，你快D啦，我趕時間呀！

Sources:
香港公路奇觀 - 今次我撐阿sir, 好EQ, 好一句大家咁話, 哈哈!
https://www.facebook.com/iamcaml/videos/vb.319890051435602/910761839015084/
(片) 白痴夫婦以為自己拍片就大哂
http://www.discuss.com.hk/viewthread.php?tid=25168823&extra=&page=1
【有片】警察抄牌故意拖時間 , 搞到個仔返學遲到
http://forum6.hkgolden.com/view.aspx?type=CA&message=6077509
阿Sir抄牌被鬧手腳慢 「做散仔有樂趣嘅」
http://nextplus.nextmedia.com/news/recommend/20151007/276326
違例泊車，警察抄牌，其實係好正常嘅事，相信都冇乜人會反對，不過，今次就有啲唔同，司機大佬唔係投訴警員冇手下留情，而係抄得太耐喎！阿Sir同司機之間誰是誰非，我哋就唔深究喇，但係佢哋當中嘅對話就認真惹味呀。阿SIR密密寫，對方就密密鬧。司機兩公婆之後仲將短片放咗上網，結果就被網民話佢哋狂講粗口教壞細路呀！

網民熱話：大戰粗口夫婦　四眼Sir妙語完勝
http://hk.on.cc/hk/bkn/cnt/news/20151007/bkn-20151007233604688-1007_00822_001.html
醒目四眼Sir冷串爆粗夫婦！一對夫婦因違例泊車遭一名戴黑框眼鏡的警員「抄牌」，惟夫婦二人在警員抄牌期間，竟當着一對年幼子女面前，不斷以粗口辱罵四眼Sir。四眼Sir不但未有被激怒，反而輕描淡寫爆出連番妙語，例如遭夫婦大罵︰「特首都有犯法啦！X頭！」四眼Sir即回應︰「特首已經接受緊法律程序啦！」令人發出會心微笑。
其實發布短片者正是該對爆粗口夫婦，欲透過網絡公審四眼Sir，以洩心頭之恨。不過，爆粗夫婦最終反成網絡公審主角，網民幾乎一面倒怒插他們，批評二人在子女面前爆粗是做壞榜樣，「做人父母都唔以身作則，小朋友有樣學樣，唔怪得香港人啲質素越來越差。」另有網民指出事發地點是馬鞍山一個交通交匯處，經常有人非法泊車，阻礙專線小巴及的士出入，支持警員嚴以執法。

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