【寫給即將40歲想要轉職的你】
夜深你打電話給我,說自己真的不知道要做什麼,公司裡總是莫名受氣,主管總要自己去做協調,但部門若那麼好協調,哪需要主管。結果主管回了一句,都要我協調還要給你發薪水嗎?
這話一出口,朋友眼淚就在心尖打轉,快40歲,好不容易做到月薪50K,今年碰到疫情,三節跟獎金都沒了,這樣下去到底該怎麼辦才好?
我說「難。」我能陪你出氣,私底下罵公司制度跟主管,只是40歲也不是說離職就可以馬上離職的年紀,況且這世道真的不比過去好。
以前20幾歲,我會要你馬上離職,反正去哪薪水都差不多,什麼都可以重頭開始學,現在去哪,攤開履歷是看經歷、年紀還有過去。
以前30幾歲,我會要你想後路,或許開間小店,或許做個電商,沒必要去受公司的氣活,投資個數十萬下去,你賺基本的工資外,還能賺到未來跟自由。
現在,我真的什麼也不好說,2020年是一個很難熬的一年,內外交迫著地球上的每一個人,疫情、戰爭、爆炸、意外,過往所有的機會都在此刻暫停,連我都無法出門遠行,這是過去跟曾經都想不到的。
妳問我,那該怎麼辦?
我說,等待。
等待夏天過去的秋天,等待疫苗出來的冬天,等待疫情過去的春天,等待哪天整個局勢都猶如雨後春筍爆發的那天。
我無法告訴你要等待多久,但等待的時間裡,我會做好自己的本分,例如聽媽媽的話,多寫一些文章,多看一點書,多念一點英文,多接一些案子,多認識一點朋友。
妳問我,那你焦慮嗎?
我說,認清之後就不焦慮了。
40歲的確面對未來還是很多疑惑,不確定的感情,不清楚的未來,不知道能否放手一搏的勇氣,但多好,至少我們都已經活到這年紀,總還有能忍一口氣的能力。
過去時機好,開店花20萬可以賺50萬,現在時機差,創業花50萬可能要虧30萬,但我說了一句
你若是鑽石,到哪裡都會閃閃發光,
你若明白自己還有缺少哪裡,那就有一道光會指引你,
順著你的心走,別太急,慢慢來,踏實下來,
歲月會給你想要的一切。
妳問我想要什麼?
我說,甘願一人,也不願只有一個人。
#你也是嗎 #大齡男女的心聲
冬天到了春天還會遠嗎英文 在 巴黎不打烊 Facebook 的最佳解答
| 巴黎一千零一夜 - G(朋友) |
*G
因為坐我對面那位同事的抱怨,說他才是專案的老大,讓我忍不住想多觀察一下到底誰是老大。畢竟我幾乎獨居的生活裡,實在太沒有「人」的事情了。
G是一個很高又非常俊美的男人,他有著一頭深棕色的短髮和抑鬱的眼神,每天西裝筆挺的上班。因為我做的案子和他們沒有交集,所以我從沒跟他說過話,完全無法理解他的想法和背景。倒是坐我對面的同事曾經用輕蔑的口氣說過,G是在前東德地區長大的,他們那些前東德的人怎樣怎樣。
我大概就是這樣的一個人,越和我說他人的壞話,我就越想要自己了解,不想受人左右判斷力。所以我每天在辦公室畫圖發呆想不出來的時候,就偷偷地觀察G。我從G講電話的態度,可以看出他應該是個真誠的人。為什麼呢?我相信大家都看過某些人表面上一套,私底下另一套的做人處事態度,這樣的態度最容易在掛電話的時候表現出來。而G沒有,他在電話中的談判或公司內部交涉,電話中的態度和掛了電話後是一樣的。
辦公室裡二個男人的爭執持續著,我雖然聽不懂德語,但我可以明顯感受到我對面那位同事越來越挑釁霸道又有點擺爛的態度,讓G和另一位德國實習生感到很無奈。然而茶水間才是對面同事的戰場,對外他總是表現得是他在主導處理一切事物,忙到連茶水間都不去的G當然是什麼都不知道。
某天在他們爭執後,辦公室只剩下我和G,我鼓起勇氣向G攀談,不重不輕的問了一句:「還好嗎?」G不像坐我對面的同事閒話一堆,他只回了一句:「還好。」不嚼舌根的人,我欣賞!
開啟了這個話頭後,每次他們辦公室爭執之後,我對面的同事就會去茶水間抽菸,我就會和坐我斜對角的G互換眼神,他總是無奈的笑一笑或聳聳肩。
我和G的第二次交談,是某天加班到七八點的時候,辦公室只剩下我們倆個。他臨走前問我,因為工作的關係他要出席法國標緻汽車的活動,我有沒有興趣一起參加?現場還會有新出爐的法國小姐。哇,我到柏林都快二個月了,第一次有人約我一起出去,我馬上點頭答應。
*朋友
標緻汽車在柏林總部的活動,想必是個正式的場合,為了不失禮節,我做了一個正式的妝扮。不過柏林的冬天很長,都已經四月底五月初了,天氣還是很冷。我一向不會「愛水不怕流鼻水」,但出席正式活動就不是單單愛美的問題,還牽扯到家教禮儀一堆,我只能若無其事的硬著頭皮上了。
好險我有做正式打扮,當我看到G的時候,整個人都傻了。他穿著一身全白的正式西裝禮服和黑色領結,加上他本來就高挑的身材和英俊的面孔,根本就活脫脫的白馬王子!我們在冷風中走過菩提樹大街,經過布蘭登堡廣場到標緻汽車活動的場地,盛裝的兩人一路受到很多的注目。從小到大我因為身高的關係,早已經習慣路人的眼神,然而當我輕飄飄的走在G身邊時,發現G的英俊瀟灑連男人都投以目光。我忍不住在心裡跟自己說,不應該嫉妒男伴比自己出色。
標緻汽車的活動非常無聊,就是一個喝香檳的社交場合,法國小姐非常年輕,看來是代表法國品牌出席柏林的活動當個社交裝飾品。G在現場晃了一圈,和認識的朋友打聲招呼,我們沒有待太久就離開了,隔天大家都還要上班。
走去地鐵站的路上,我和G用英語困難的小聊一下,他的英文程度不是很好,不過我可以感受到他很努力的和我溝通。我謝謝他的邀約,到柏林工作都二個月了,我還是第一次離開辦公室和我住的地區,到歷史上大名鼎鼎的布蘭登堡廣場。而他相當驚訝我在柏林一個朋友都沒有,獨自一人吃飯了二個月,於是我們相約週六下午去看柏林當代藝術雙年展。
聽到這個邀約,我真是太開心了。為什麼開心呢?因為我終於有朋友了?還是我有點喜歡G?他把他的電話寫在一張紙條上給我。
*相約
那個星期六的天氣很好,是我到柏林二個月後,第一次感到春天的氣息,冬天的積雪都融化了,路上行人也變多了,我也總算要在週六出門了!
我一早就和在北京的A通電話,跟他說我總算在柏林找到一個朋友,要和他一起去看雙年展。相較於我,A在北京的生活多采多姿,因為他不是一個人去當交換生,同行的還有他最好的朋友和其他同學。二個月來,雖然我們每天都有通話,但是現實生活是各忙各的,感覺越來越遠。
柏林當代藝術雙年展的展場其實離我家不遠,坐地鐵是二站的距離,騎腳踏車是一路往下的輕鬆下坡路線,在市中心Mitte的當代藝術中心。我在約定的時間準時到達,當代藝術中心傳統建築的中庭裡,有一個新式的玻璃屋建築,是美術館咖啡廳。
週末的美術館咖啡廳裡,有很多來看展覽的文化人,他們穿著有自己的風格又相當有品味,我覺得自己總算在柏林找到「對」的地方了。而很久沒自己一人進入餐廳,今天我不怕別人異樣的眼光而大方進入,因為我今天「有約」!
一個人久了,我很會打發時間,等待G到來的時候,我就讀自己隨身帶的書。只是我讀了15分鐘、30分鐘,G還是沒有出現。30分鐘過去後,我開始有些擔心,是不是自己走錯地方了?雙年展有二個展廳,除了這裡之外,還有對面那棟廢棄建築物也是這次展覽的場地。想到這裡我趕緊結帳,到對面展場的入口處,也沒有看到G。
我以前常常開玩笑說,專業的等待是一個小時,因為年輕時大家都會睡過頭遲到,相約唱歌或吃飯什麼的,常常遲到半個小時十五分鐘。所以我等候G一個小時都沒有出現時,我掏出他寫給我的紙條,找了一個公共電話亭撥電話,打了三次都沒人接。他是不是已經出門了呢?我又回到展場門口繼續等,等到快二個小時後,我才決定放棄等待。因為就算看錯時間出門晚了,從我打電話沒人接,再過一個小時人都該到了。
我感到有些無奈又有些生氣,這還是我第一次和人相約被放鴿子而且音訊全無,G這個人真是太差勁了!我心裡是這麼想沒錯,但後來我自己買票入場看完雙年展之後,氣就全消了,真感謝G告訴我柏林有這麼好的展覽!「藝術可以療癒和撫慰心靈」這句話一點都沒錯,看著藝術家們的作品,去了解還有和作品之間無聲的對話,讓我能沈澱自己的情緒,了解許多當下的情感或反應都只是一時的情緒。
走出展場,我原諒G的缺席,或許他遇到了什麼事呢?我帶著輕鬆的步伐回家。
冬天到了春天還會遠嗎英文 在 玳瑚師父 Master Dai Hu Facebook 的最讚貼文
【玳瑚師父課室】《第46場回顧:旺得福聖誕餐會》
46TH RECAP: “A WONDERFUL CHRISTMAS” LEARNING SESSION (English version below)
妳你有改命的決心嗎?
可是,妳你懂得尊敬她他人和自己嗎?還是覺得有免費的東西,不拿白不拿?
玳瑚師父於2018年12月24日,舉辦了眾人期待已久的餐會,第46場《旺得福聖誕餐會》。
餐會前,有參與者送上聖誕卡與花束,祝賀師父佳節愉快。餐會後亦有出席者拿玳瑚師父的新書《向善向上2 - 漫畫版》請師父簽名。
師父的餐會不收分文,一向爲他臉書專頁忠實按讚的讀者粉絲們而辦。但每次依然會有報名者,沒有閱讀,沒有按讚,也想趁機來得到師父免費的風水命理知識。
曾有一位報名者,怒氣沖沖地責問:「你要求人家讀那麽多,合理嗎?!」
也有一位沒得來的報名者說:「我自己的業,我自己背。」
其實,沒有要求。貼文中也有註明:餐會本來就是給玳瑚師父,回饋每篇都有閱讀按讚的粉絲讀者們。師父的文章有很多做人的道理,如果沒有看就已經不算善待自己,又怎麼有福份得到師父的幫助呢?
沒有付出行動,也談不上支持玳瑚師父的文宣,就想得到免費幫助,可又合情合理呢?
有位出席者曾被師父列入黑名單。因爲2017年夏天的一場餐會之前,他要求盡早接到通知,才能叫母親不煮他的飯,卻依然遲到,被拒於門外,不得參加餐會。遲到的原因是他在家裡吃飯,時間遲了,有能力卻不想花錢搭德士,依然搭巴士,在最後一刻才通知,事後也沒有主動親自向師父道歉。
當時,師父未到會場時,就已預知助理,這位男士會遲到,因為有錢卻依然要省錢,所以選擇遲到。師父告知助理,這等人無法改命,因此收到簡訊時,就直接不要給他來。
師父對於出席者的要求是:有改命的決心,也肯尊重他人。因此,禮貌和準時本來就應該兼有的。
一年半後,師父允許他出席平安夜的餐會,因爲他找師父已許久,該給一次機會,也可應證師父最初看他相的準確性。果真,他見到師父時,並沒有第一時間走過來打招呼和道歉,依然需要師父弟子的提醒。
守株待兔等待貴人時,別忘了,貴人也有很多人在追,沒有誰是應該幫誰的。
餐會精彩摘要:
(A)平安三部曲 - 內心的平安
一、師父請大家說出對「平安」這兩個字的看法。
二、師父對「平常心」的解析:
。一切都在適當的運作上
。不要過份的貪圖妄想,
。量力而爲就能得平穩
。人與人之間不要鬥爭,不要爭奪,不要有歹念,不要佔別人的便宜。
三、我們要學習宇宙的運作,爲何春天會花開,夏天會結果,秋天會凋零,冬天會冬眠?
四、爲何身體是一切的開始?
五、有分別心就會有敵人。玳瑚師父心中沒有不喜歡的人,他永遠都會選擇接受,因爲他心中只有愛,沒有敵人。
(B)平安三部曲 - 屋子的平安
六、屋子對,風水對,心情自然會好,賺錢又多,一定平安
七、哪五種建築物是噩夢的開始?
八、大門的前景如何決定我們的「錢」途平安?
九、出席者李承修先生現場分享:
2017年至2018年裡,他出席師父免費活動至少十四次。師父看他年輕,就幫他一把,在2018年的拜天公活動時,師父送他一個祭拜過的供品,問:「師父賜大福給你,要不要?」
李承修先生點頭說要,便雙手接過師父賜予他的供品,並感謝師父。他得到師父無數的風水貼士和自身增運法後,積極的去進行。他的電子商務從幾乎零營業額,到今年收入增加到令人驚訝的數字!
十、問:堅強的意志力不可以超越壞風水的影響力嗎?
師父答:人不可能那麽厲害。凡夫有很多的問題,心裡很複雜,因此會產生很多的負能量。祇有修行人才能超越,因此自己不能做到的,就應該去請一個能做到的師父。
十一、問:大門外就看到另一戶,好嗎?
十二、爲何玳瑚師父不推崇用水晶改命?
十三、屋子和我們健康的關聯
十四、如何選最適合自己的飯桌
十五、請不到好的風水師父,如何自己選屋子?
十六、2019年如何催旺家中財位?
(C)平安三部曲 - 自身的平安
十七、玳瑚師父分析眾人的氣色
十八、男人犯淫如何影響旺氣?
十九、精神 - 「精」與「神」的關聯
二十、有錢了,不要自己吃,發達了,也要幫助別人。
(D)玳瑚師父現場看風水
二十一、有方案,沒魄力的男人如何看?
二十二、有再大的抱負,爲何還是敗給差勁的臥房風水?
二十三、原來五行的運用決定我們的盛衰!
二十四、這種房屋,有如一個戰場:主吵架、沒錢、犯陰煞!
等等等。
我們的年齡祇會一年一年的加,不會一年一年的減少。風水,能夠把一個機會變成一百個機會。玳瑚師父不是叫大家貪心,但是在這個世界,沒有錢是萬萬不可以的。玳瑚師父與出席者們開玩笑說:「我希望每個人都生活安逸,這樣你們就不會向我借錢。」
師父提醒男出席者們:男人介紹自己時,要有力,不要柔柔弱弱,聽不到聲音。但也要記得,男人的威風,在於有本事又能幹,而不是叫你用你的力氣去打女人、欺負女人。
平安的定義在於妳你的心境。我們都要去接受每個人,去想每個人都有她他的長處。當我們能夠把自己的心打開時,就是我們真正去迎接「平安」的時候了。
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Do you have the resolve to change your destiny?
However, do you know how to respect others and yourself? Or do you think that if something is available for free, you would be a fool for not grabbing it?
On the night of Christmas Eve, 24 December 2018, Master Dai Hu conducted the much anticipated 46th Learning Session, A Wonderful Christmas.
Before it commenced, a participant gave Master a bouquet of lilies and a Christmas card, wishing him happy holidays. At the end of it, there were also participants who sought Master's autograph for his new comic book, Towards Kindness, Towards Betterment.
Master Dai Hu had never charged a single cent for his learning sessions. They were always conducted to repay his loyal fans, who dutifully read his FB posts and tapped Like for every single one of them. However, there will be still applicants, who neither read nor tap like for the posts, wanting to attend the free Learning Sessions and benefit from Master Dai Hu's Chinese Metaphysics knowledge.
One rejected applicant texted, "I will bear the consequences of my own karma."
Another applicant angrily asked, "Is it logical that you expect people to read so many of your posts?!"
Actually, there is no expectation. It is already clearly stated in the FB notice: the Learning Sessions are meant to benefit Master Dai Hu's devoted readers and fans, who read his FB posts and tapped Like for every single one of them.
There are sensible life truths in Master Dai Hu's posts. If you do not read them, you can't be considered as a person who treat yourself with benevolence. In this case, how will you have the good fortune to receive the help of Master Dai Hu?
If you did not invest any effort, and do not support Master Dai Hu's writings, yet you still wish to get his help for free, how is that reasonable and logical?
One participant was blacklisted by Master Dai Hu previously. He was due to attend one session in the summer of 2017. Before that, he requested for an early notification, so that he could inform his mother not to cook dinner for him. However, he still arrived late and was denied entry.
His reason for his lateness was him wanting to save money. He ate dinner at home and took the bus, despite running late and having the financial ability to take a taxi. He sent a late notice and did not personally apologise to Master Dai Hu for his tardiness.
Before Master Dai Hu reached the venue, he had already informed his assistant that this gentleman would be late by choice as he was a miser, and hence, chose not to spend when necessary. Master Dai Hu remarked that a man of such caliber made a poor candidate for destiny transformation, and preempted the assistant to turn him away when he would text later.
Master Dai Hu's prerequisite to all participants has always been:
* Have the tenacity to turn your destiny around
* be able to respect others
Therefore, good manners and punctuality are definitely traits that one should have.
1.5 year later, Master Dai Hu gave permission for this gentleman to attend the Christmas Eve's Learning Session. Reason being, he had been trying to contact Master Dai Hu for quite some time, and it was time to give him a chance. Secondly, the meeting would also validate Master Dai Hu's accuracy in reading his facial features.
True indeed, when the gentleman saw Master Dai Hu, he failed to take any initiative to introduce himself, greet Master, or offered his apology. He had to be reminded by Master's disciple before doing it.
When we are passively guarding a tree-stump, waiting for a benefactor to stroll by, don't forget that the same benefactor is also pursued by many other people, who bother to show the initiative. Nobody is obligated to help anybody.
Learning Session Highlights:
(A)TRILOGY TO BEING SAFE & SOUND - #1 INNER MIND
1. Master Dai Hu invited everybody to share what being safe and sound meant to them
2. Master Dai Hu explained the term 平常心 (a calm mind):
- Everything function in an appropriate order
- No excessive coveting and wishful thinking
- Live within your means and you will achieve stability
- Do not fight with others, do not contend with others
- Do not harbour evil intentions.
- Do not take advantage of others.
3. We must learn the ways the Universe operate. Why do flowers bloom in Spring, fruits are borne in Summer, the leaves wilt in Autumn, and hibernation take place in Winter?
4. Why does everything begin from our bodies?
5. To have a discriminating heart is to have enemies. In the heart of Master Dai Hu, there is nobody that he dislikes. He always choose to accept, because there is only love in his heart and no enmity.
(B)TRILOGY TO BEING SAFE & SOUND - #2 HOME
6. When the house is right, the Feng Shui is right, your mood will naturally be great and so will your income level.
7. Which 5 types of buildings are the beginning of your nightmares?
8. How does the front view of our main door decide the safety and soundness of our money future?
9. A participant, Mr Lee Cheng Xiu, shared his live testimony:
Between 2017 and 2018, he attended 14 of Master Dai Hu's free learning sessions. Master Dai Hu decided to give him a helping hand, upon seeing how young he was. In 2018's prayers to the Supreme Jade Emperor, Master Dai Hu gave Mr Lee an offering from the prayer session and asked, "I bestow great fortune to you. Do you want it?"
Mr Lee Cheng Xiu nodded his head and said he wanted, before receiving the offering with both hands and saying thank you. He received countless Feng Shui advice and self luck booster suggestions, and diligently implemented Master's advice. His ecommerce revenue increased dramatically from almost zero sales to a shocking figure this year.
10. Question: Can strong willpower surmount the influence of a bad Feng Shui?
Master Dai Hu's reply: It is impossible for a mere mortal to have this ability. Man has many problems and a complicated mind. These produce many negative energies. Only an accomplished spiritual cultivator is able to triumph the effects of a bad Feng Shui. Hence, when you are unable to do it, you should seek the help of a Master who can do it.
11. Question: When your main door faces the main door of another household, is it ideal?
12. Why does Master Dai Hu discourage the use of crystals in destiny transformation?
13. The correlation between our homes and our health
14. How to choose a dining table most suitable for ourselves
15. If you are unable to engage a good Feng Shui master, how can you choose a suitable house?
16. In 2019, how do you activate the store of wealth in your home?
(C)TRILOGY TO BEING SAFE & SOUND - #2 SELF
17. Master Dai Hu analysed the facial auras of participants.
18. How does sexual misconduct affect the prosperity of men?
19. The Chinese term 精神 - the correlation between 精 and 神
20. When you have the money, do not eat it all by yourself. When you strike it rich, you must help others.
(D)MASTER DAI HU LIVE FENG SHUI AUDITS
21. How do you tell that this man has plans but lack the drive and boldness to carry them through?
22. Why is a great ambition defeated by lousy bedroom Feng Shui?
23. So this is how the application of the five elements determine our victories and defeats!
24. A house formation like this is like a live battlefield - daily quarrels, lack of money, Yin afflictions.
etc.
Our age will only increase year by year, and not the other way. Feng Shui has the ability to transform a single opportunity into a hundred more. Master Dai Hu is not encouraging everybody to be greedy, but in this world of form, it is impossible to live without money. Master Dai Hu cracked a joke with the participants, "I hope for everyone to have a comfortable life, so that you won't end up having to borrow money from me."
Master Dai Hu also reminded the male participants: When a man introduces himself, there must be strength in his words and never to speak weakly or softly. But bear in mind that a man is deemed impressive when he is capable and competent, not when he uses his strength to beat a woman or bully the fairer sex.
The definition of 平安 (being safe and sound) lies in your state of mind. We must be able to accept everybody, and think of their good points. The moment we can open up our hearts will be when we can truly receive 平安 .
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