[翻轉視界 3] 媽媽是世界上最辛苦工作
To all the mothers out there, thank you for your sacrifices and happy Mother’s Day!
辛苦了， 媽媽們!
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原文及圖片授權來自於 Humans of Taipei和台灣社區實踐協會
結婚前，我在日商公司的工廠工作，當到管理幹部，本來也存了一筆錢準備婚後買房，沒想到婚後，根本來想的完全不一樣。
Before I got married, I worked in a factory ran by a Japanese company. I worked my way up to management and saved some money to purchase a house after marriage. Little did I expect how different life would be after I got married.
1. work your way up/to the top 逐步達成: https://bit.ly/2La73Eu
2. little did somebody know/realize/think 用來說某人不知道或認為某事會發生或是真的: https://bit.ly/2SJ7s4Z
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我和前夫是朋友介紹認識的。一直以來，我在感情裡面都沒什麼自信、處於弱勢，總是被拋棄的那一方。之前也有個男友曾經論及婚嫁，但他媽媽嫌我內向不會講話，沒辦法幫忙做生意，所以後來還是分手了。我跟前夫交往沒有幾個月就結婚，那時候覺得他在公司工作五、六年，應該很有定性，感覺也是個顧家、愛小孩的人。雖然不致於大富大貴，但夫妻倆應該可以過個穩定的幸福生活。
My ex-husband and I were introduced by friends. I have never had much confidence in my relationships. I was always the weaker half, the one who was always left behind. Before my ex-husband, I had a boyfriend who proposed marriage, but his mother felt that I was too much of an introvert and could not help him manage his business. We parted ways in the end. My ex-husband and I got married a few months after we began dating. He had been working in his company for five to six years at the time, so I felt he had a stable life. He also felt like a family man and one who loves children. While he was not rich, I felt we could live a stable and happy life.
3. have confidence in… 對…有信心
4. propose marriage 提出結婚、論及婚嫁
5. introvert 性格內向者
6. part ways 分開
7. see each other 交往，談戀愛
8. a family man 關心家庭的人
9. stable life 穩定的生活
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婚後，陸續生下大女兒和小兒子，兩個差三歲，但都是我在養。老公婚後都是半夜才回家，而且他除了房租以外，其餘生活開銷都不肯出。我盡量維持他在外的形象，都沒有跟別人說。因為實在沒錢，我還曾經打去他的公司，問老闆什麼時候發薪水？老闆很驚訝地跟我說，他的薪水比廠長還高，我們應該生活無虞才對。
After marriage, we had our eldest daughter and a son three years later, but I had to raise them myself. My husband would always return home after midnight, and he never paid for any living expenses other than rent. I tried to help maintain his image so I kept silent. However, I just did not have enough money, so I called his company one day and asked his boss when he would be paid. His boss was surprised. He told me that my husband’s salary was higher than that of the factory director and we should not have to worry about basic necessities.
10. raise 撫養
11. pay living expense 支付生活開銷
12. maintain one’s image 維持形象
13. factory director 廠長
14. basic necessities 基本生活必需物品與花用
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我實在不知道他半夜都去哪，把錢花到哪去。總之，我一直苦撐，我總覺得小孩要有爸爸、要有完整的家庭；撐越久，又覺得「我都已經撐這麼久了」，如果現在放棄的話，那不就前功盡棄了嗎？本來要用來買房子的存款，為了養小孩，全部花完，後來我幾乎一天只吃一餐，最慘的時候，還曾經母子三人吃一個便當。
I really didn’t know where he went in the middle of the night, and where he spent all his money. I hung on because I felt that the children must have a father and a complete family. I thought that I had already hung on for so long—if I had given up, then everything would have been for nothing. The money I had saved to purchase a house was completely spent on my children. I could only eat one meal a day, and at times the three of us would only share a single lunchbox.
15. hang on 堅持*
16. at times 有時
17. lunchbox 便當
*hang on (5): https://bit.ly/3frV9Uf
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你能想像嗎？我家沒有電視也沒有電腦，冷氣壞了沒辦法修，洗衣機壞了，我只能手洗衣服。社工問我，為什麼小孩身上臭臭的？我也不知道該怎麼說，因為他們的衣服本來就是二手的，而且我只能手洗，他們一流汗就臭了。還好，我去工作之後，偶爾可以把衣服拿去投幣式洗衣機啦。
Could you imagine what we went through? There wasn’t a TV or a computer in our house. Even when the air conditioner or the washing machine was broken, we could not fix it. I had to wash the clothes by hand! The social worker would ask me why the kids’ clothes stank, and I did not know what to tell them. Thankfully, after I began working, we could occasionally take our clothes to a coin-operated laundromat.
18. go through 遭受，經歷，經受（苦難等）
19. stink (v.) 散發異味，發出難聞的氣味
20. thankfully 通常用於句首，表示高興或感激）幸好，幸虧
21. coin-operated laundromat 投幣式洗衣店*
*launderette: https://bit.ly/2Wb8FUz
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我苦撐了十年才離婚，後來徹底心寒，是因為債務問題。我前夫不拿錢回家，我只能用信用卡去大賣場採買日常用品，前夫要買什麼，也會要我刷卡，甚至還要幫他付電話費，一個月就兩萬元。我說我不幫你繳，他說好阿，那被停話你跟小孩就找不到我了。就這樣債務累積越來越多，到最後，我只好跟銀行談妥還債計畫，跟娘家借錢還債。這也讓我決定離婚。
I hung on for a decade before filing for divorce. I found out later that my ex-husband had debt problems. He did not bring any money home, so I could only use credit cards to purchase groceries. Whatever he wanted to buy, he would ask me to use my card. I even had to pay his phone bills. Sometimes the bills amounted to 20,000 a month, so I told my husband I would not pay. "That's fine, but then you and the kids wouldn't be able to reach me anymore, " he said. The debts piled up until finally, I negotiated a debt settlement with the bank and asked my in-laws for money to pay the bank. I decided to file for divorce afterward.
22. get a divorce 離婚
23. debt problem 債務問題
24. purchase groceries 購買食品雜貨
25. pile up（使）（不好的事物）增加，（使）累積
26. debt settlement 還債計畫*
27. in-laws 姻親
28. file for divorce 在法庭提起離婚訴訟
*debt settlement https://bit.ly/3djBofy
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目前，我們還跟前夫住在一起，因為要搬出去，就得準備兩個月的押金和第一個月的租金，我得要努力存錢才有能力處理。阿山他們介紹我去超市工作，我希望超市趕快開幕，我才有辦法趕快賺錢搬出去。
At present, my children and I are still living with my ex-husband, because you need to have a two-month deposit and payment for the first month to rent a place. I have to work harder and save. Ah Shan and them (social workers) found me a job at a supermarket. I wished it would open soon so I could save and move out.
29. deposit 押金
30. social worker 社工
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其實，哪個女生不希望嫁個好老公？但是老公再有錢，沒有真心愛妳都沒用；即使老公賺不多，但只要願意顧家，那就是好老公。
All girls want a good husband. However, if your husband doesn't really love you, it doesn't matter how rich he is. Even if your husband does not make much, if he cares for his family, then he is a good husband.
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so that 句首 在 [文法] 關於so的用法- 看板Eng-Class - 批踢踢實業坊 的推薦與評價
各位好，我在這裡有個文法的問題想請教：
在國中南一版第三冊第三課教師手冊中提到，”so”是「對等連接詞」而且
「so的前面通常要加逗號」，可是交大外文系劉美君教授寫的文法書《英文文法有道理》
中，卻把”so”歸類到「從屬連接詞」，而且寫了一個例句：
It rained heavily so I didn't go to the library。
在這個句子當中，so的前面並沒有加上逗號。
這樣看來，南一教師手冊跟劉美君教授對於”so”的見解有明顯出入。
我很好奇的是，so到底是屬於對等連接詞，還是從屬連接詞？
又，劉美君教授寫的例句中，so的前面沒加上逗號到底正不正確？
So的前面有非加逗號不可嗎？
先謝謝回答了，感激不盡！！
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真的很謝謝Widder8板友的解惑，
不過我另外在臉書的英文社團發問，
有網友回應我
「從屬連接詞如when, before, after, if...等都可以放句首或句中，
但so這個連接詞只能放句中，不放句首，所以我會比較偏向把so跟
and, or, but歸為同一類『對等連接詞』！」
然後我又另外查了劉毅的文法寶典，
在對等連接詞的章節，
劉毅認為so是對等連接詞中的推理連接詞，用來表示「因此；所以」
其中一個例句是It is now late, so we had better go to bed.
但是在從屬連接詞的章節，
so又出現了，是用來代替so that，用來表結果，
其中一個例句是He worked very hard, so(that) he became rich in a very short
time.
以上這兩個例句其實我讀起來都有一種「表示因果」的感覺，
我實在分辨不出他們在語氣上有甚麼太大的不同。
這樣感覺上，so似乎既是從屬連接詞，也是對等連接詞？＠＠
BTW，我個人的經驗是，
有時候文法書彼此之間好像會出現不同作者對某個觀念見解不同、定義不同的狀況，
搞到後來都不知道到底該相信哪一本文法書，
不知道有沒有人有跟我一樣的狀況？＠＠
※ 編輯: COATteam 來自: 1.34.62.147 (10/26 21:14)
謝謝Widder8板友提供的參考線索！！
其實我會這麼執著於術語是因為教學實習課我要上台試教，
一來是我怕詞性講得不清楚會被老師電，
二來是剛好遇到教師手冊跟文法書之間彼此矛盾，
想說趁機把文法觀念弄得更清楚也好
※ 編輯: COATteam 來自: 1.34.62.147 (10/26 21:52)
我總覺得南一版說在so的前面通常要加逗號有點太武斷了，
剛才曾在三民書局編英文教科書的同學告訴我，
有不少老師抱怨南一的英文教材錯誤百出，
所以我在想這會不會又是一個南一教材的錯誤？
※ 編輯: COATteam 來自: 1.34.62.147 (10/26 21:56)
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