關於 why the long face ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

SHOULD YOU QUIT YOUR JOB NOW?

“You have to help me quit my job!”

Even though the video was off, I could tell from Bria’s voice that she was in tears. This strong woman couldn’t keep herself together anymore.

“You’re experiencing strong emotions now. That’s very natural,” I said, wanting to help her feel safe and accepted.

After all, Bria and I had only met once in an event. Knowing that I was a coach, she reached out the next day to see if I could help.

If there’s anything I’ve learned from my years of coaching, it’s that when the person is emotional, you need to give them the space to feel it.

So as Bria sobbed, I stayed silent, feeling my belly rise and fall with each breath. After a short while, I could sense that her wave of emotion had passed.

“Shall we take one long easy breath together?” I asked.

I heard her breathing with me. I paused, allowing Bria the time to settle, then I asked her to tell me what’s so difficult to her about her job.

After listening to her sharing, I said: “I can definitely help you, Bria.” I heard a sigh of relief on the other end. “But only if you promise me you won’t quit your job yet.”

3 months after that conversation, Bria waltzed in my office one evening holding a bottle of red wine: “Let’s celebrate!”

She had a giddy grin on her face, the very special grin with a dimple that I’d come to love after many hours supporting her. “Oh! Is it okay for us to drink a glass of wine in our coaching session?” She asked.

I laughed: “Of course. What are we celebrating?”

Bria said, her face brightened even more: “I just realized today that I have the perfect job!”

The most fascinating thing about this story is that the “perfect job” she referred to was the exact same job she had practically begged me to help her quit.

Bria’s circumstances hadn’t changed. But her experiences of the circumstances had changed 180 degrees. Why? Because she did.

Bria’s story teaches me once again, that life is truly created from the inside out.
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👉 Dig deeper on why you should not quit your job yet with this article: https://bit.ly/2XB64q0

【一切的失敗和不足，都是最美好的安排】
All Failures & Lacks Are The Best Things to Happen to Us

三個月前，收到來自台灣客人的這封電郵時，開心和心酸交織著在心裡。

開心，因為這是一年前通過Zoom視訊的客人。他居然在我們看八字的一週年，特地寫了封感謝函給我，真有心！

心酸，因為他寫在電郵裡的低落心情，我完完全全明白。

他的經歷，是我的曾經。我當初也是很難，很久才能走出來。

有一回，我為一位芳華正茂的女子批八字時，她很用心的寫下我說的話。

論寫筆記的完整，她是我客人當中的佼佼者。

寫到一半，我注意到她的右手開始微微顫抖。我以為是空調的風太大了，冷到她，便問她要不要披巾。

她說，是她的焦慮症發作。

「我沒在兇你，也沒對你嚴厲，你為何突然焦慮？」

「我.....打從今年疫情打亂了我的計畫，我就一直很焦慮。我覺得我很沒用，同學們都前進了，只有我現在什麼都不是，亂糟糟的。我就一直很緊張，萬一我一直都是這樣，怎麼辦？」

說著，她眼眶一紅，眼淚像斷了線的珍珠鏈似的灑下來。

我的媽呀！是我的樣子長得很催淚，還是我的聲音聽起來很虐心？怎麼客人，不分男女老少，東南西北，看到我好像都很容易哭？

我抓起一張紙巾遞給她。

「所以，我不是來了嗎？你來找我，就是要問個明路，而你很幸運那麼快就看到我啦！你看你的筆記寫得多工整，多齊全。我很多客人都不如你啊！我今天的工作，就是來給你答案的。我沒有把握，也不會接你這份差事。我接了，就代表還可以補救。你照著我的指示去做，一定柳暗花明又一村。」

又另一回，一位四十多歲的媽媽請我看兒子的八字。

我在批著八字時，這位媽媽點頭認同，然後就聲淚俱下。

我轉頭看著她沈默不語的先生。我說錯了什麼嗎？太太哭成淚人，你怎麼連紙巾也不拿給她啊？

「我是個沒有用的母親，很不稱職的母親。我沒有辦法教好孩子。我很愛他，可是很多時候我都不知道要怎麼做，我就會對他發脾氣，說狠話，過後我又後悔。我忍下來，可是後來還是會一樣！」

我沒打斷她，等她的哭聲逐漸小聲後，我柔柔的說：「我來啦！我坐在你前面了。你已經看到我，就是有辦法了。你知道你自己不行，會去找辦法，就代表你願意去學習做個好媽媽啊！」

我把紙巾遞給她，再說：「不要哭了，要不然，別人看了以為是我不要借你錢，才把你弄得那麼傷心。」

曾幾何時，我們都會以外在所擁有的，來定義自己的人生是否值得自己喜歡。

從原生家庭、樣貌、健康、身型、智力、天賦等，到後來的學歷、友情、事業、財富、婚姻、子女......

哪一樣沒有，而偏偏是我們最想要的，我們就會認定自己失敗的一塌糊塗。

我認為這就是普通教育最大的問題所在。父母老師都是這樣把我們「分門別類」的。值不值得父母疼愛或向親朋戚友炫耀，也離不開那幾點。

久而久之，我們也只會以「成功」來定義自己是否有價值，甚至來衡量自己是否有活下去的勇氣。

我比較喜歡佛法的定義。我們每個人都是一尊佛，六道眾生皆有佛性，只因一時的迷，因此墮落在苦輪不停的輪迴。

可正因為我們有佛性，我們都有無窮無盡的可能。每個人的內在有著很強大的力量，等著我們遇到明師後，去發掘、探索和了解。

而這天生俱來的力量，就是你改命立命的資本。

如果人生順風順水，我們永遠不會想要出離，誤把人間當極樂，所以一定要有苦，我們才會意識到，為什麼我們會在這鬼地方？要怎麼樣才可以離開這鬼地方去到極樂？

反過來，我們都應該感恩自己遇到的挫折，因為從這些苦中，我們才能生出智慧。

沒有一個八字是完美的。一切的失敗和不足，都是最美好的安排，如此你才會有出離心，返本歸源。

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3 months ago, when I received this email from my Taiwan client, there was this feeling of bittersweetness.

I was happy because this was the client I did a Zoom consultation last June. He sent me this email on the one-year anniversary date of our Zoom call, to express his gratitude. How sweet!

On the other hand, I could relate to the emotional turmoil he felt at that point in his life.

His experience was my past. It also took me a very long time to walk out from my gloominess.

Once, I analysed the Bazi of a very young lady. She was meticulously jotting down notes as I spoke.

Her detailed note-taking skills easily took the top place among my clients.

Halfway through, I noticed her right hand was trembling slightly. I thought it was due to the cold draft from the air conditioning, so I asked if she needed a shawl.

She replied that it was her anxiety disorder acting up.

“I was not fierce or strict with you. What caused your sudden anxiety?”

“I…ever since the pandemic disrupted my plans, I have been in this state of anxiety. I kept feeling useless. All my classmates are progressing expect me. I have nothing to show for and my life is in a mess. I am very anxious. What if I continue to be like this? What am I going to do?”

As she spoke, her eyes turned red and tears started rolling down like a broken strand of pearl necklace scattering onto the ground.

Oh dear! I am beginning to wonder if I have a tear-jerker face or a heart-tormenting voice. Why do my clients, regardless of gender and age, North South or East West, seem to cry easily when they see me?

I grabbed a piece of tissue and handed it to her.

“Ain’t I here already? You came to me for a roadmap and you are very lucky to see me so soon. Look at how precise and neat your notes are! Many of my clients aren’t even on par with you. My job today is to give you answers. If I didn’t have the confidence, I would not have taken up your request. Now that I did, that means there is still hope. If you follow my instructions, you will see things looking up very soon.”

On another occasion, a mother in her forties came to me for her son’s Bazi consultation.

As I was analysing, the mother nodded her head in agreement. The next thing I know, she started weeping loudly.

I turned to look at her husband, who had been silent all along. Did I say something wrong? And hello, your wife was crying. Why weren’t you gentleman enough to give her a tissue paper?

“I am a useless mother. I am incompetent. I do not know how to teach my son well. I love my son very much. But many times, I do not know what to do and thus I flare up at him and speak harshly. I always regret afterwards. I tried enduring but it still ends badly!”

I did not interrupt her and waited for her cries to soften, before speaking gently, “I’m here! I’m already sitting in front of you. You are looking at me now and that means help is here. You know that you are incompetent, so you went looking for solutions. That means you are willing to learn how to be a better mother!”

I handed a piece of tissue and said, “Don’t cry anymore, otherwise, other patrons will think that it’s because I refuse to lend you money.”

Since young, we have been using external possessions to define whether our lives are worth liking.

The family we are born into, our looks, health, body shape, intellect, talents, and then we move on to compare our academics, friendships, career, wealth, marriage and children.

If we are lacking in the area we covet most, we grade our lives as a failure.

I think this is the biggest problem in societal education. Our parents and teachers categorized us that way. Whether we as children are worthy of their love and bragging, depends on the few points above too.

Thus over time, we can only use the term “success” to determine whether we are of value, for some people, whether they should live on to take their next breath.

I very much prefer the definition in Buddhism. We are all Buddhas. Each and every sentient being in the six realms has a Buddha nature in them. But they got lost momentarily and fell into the endless wheel of reincarnation.

Yet, because of our Buddha nature, we have an unlimited source of potential. Every one of us has a very powerful strength inside us. It is just waiting for us to meet an accomplished teacher, so that we have the tools to explore and understand it:

And this strength that we are born with is the capital for us to transform and establish our own destiny.

If life is smooth-sailing, we would never want to leave and would mistake this mortal realm for Pureland. Thus, we all need sufferings, to realise that we should break out of this hell of a place. There has to be a better world somewhere. So how we get there?

We should, in fact, be grateful for all the setbacks and failures we have. Because it is from these sufferings, our wisdom arise:

No single Bazi is perfect. Every failure and lack we experience is the best arrangement for us, so that the heart of renunciation will arise in us and we will return to where we came from.

Today is such a looooong day, why does Monday always suck the life out of us? But despite the endless work call and never ending task lists, I feel so contended. I took my time to a long hot shower (the ones that burns skin), and pour myself an ice cold cucumber water and a good solid mask. Using the world’s first customized microbiome sheet mask range, 7 days straight and my skin has never felt so hydrated ever.

Immensely proud of this local brand @bblabs.international , who educates the importance of skin barrier instead of focusing a short term relief - which is drying out the affected areas that will eventually triggered our oil gland to produce more oil thinking that we are out of it. Then the biscuits cycle continues. All their products are MADE on Malaysia too. 🇲🇾🇲🇾

From having 60 active hormonal acnes on my face to none, it took exactly 1 year! So, trust the process and most importantly, trust science and READ the ingredients!

Hello Hello friends,

Happy 1st day of March! Sorry it took so long to get this vlog up. My social battery has been a little low lately. This video pretty much sums up February for us. Ayla and I have been busy administering vaccinations with the babies. Apparently according to her, our vaccine is completely safe for all ages. Thank you to all the real nurses, doctors and caregivers out there being true heroes!!

Ps. YOUNG PEOPLE DON'T OWN OR DICTATE FASHION.

All my love,
Bubz xo


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呼吸をして, 今を見渡すたこの光景を(Why did you let it go?)
胸に残る　止まない痛み (oh no) いつまで続くのだろう？
いつも自分に 　問い掛けてても
そうまた繰り返すの？

そっと抱いて離さないで、このまま黒に染まりすつ
何も見えなくなるから
Until I reached the limit 抑え続けて、Ah ah
これ以上壊したくはないから

見えないから不安になってしまう
ありえないことも頭の中駆け巡り
争い続けても

いつも一人で憂い、悔やんでも,
こんな思いを繰り返すなら
支配されるのを　怖がってても　
そんなんじゃ前に進めないから

君が差し伸べるその手を握って
何度も救われて生きてたから
Keep looking for another way
探し続けて,新たな自分になる為
変わらなきゃいけないから
I know it's true
I didn't wanna face the truth
Ive been running away
Cuz it hurts it hurts
Take it away from me

ずっとこのまま離さないで
一人で生きれないのなら
これからを受け止めていくから
I'll face the world and move ahead
変わってみせるよ
未来を切り開くため
今からを作るんだ
I know it's true
It's hard to make a change
Let's take a small step
One by one never stop
I'll make a change

Take a breath、looking at this sight in front of me
Never-ending pain that stays in my chest. How long is this gonna continue?
Always telling myself that your gonna repeat this again?

Hug me gently and don't let me go if not.
I'm gonna turn into a dark and won't be able to see
Until I reach the limit I keep holding it down
Because I don't wanna destroy it

Anxiety kicks in because I can't see
A lot of Impossible events conflicts in my head

Always alone in regret and sorrow
If I have to repeat this all the time
Getting scared by taken over
That's why I cannot keep moving forward

It helps me countless times by grabbing your hands
when you reach out to me
Keep looking for another continue searching
To change me because I have to

I know it's true I didn't wanna face the truth
I've been running away Cuz it hurts it hurts
Take it away from me

Don't let me go forever. If I cannot live alone, I'll face the world and move ahead I'll do my best to change
to brighten my future ahead
It starts from now

I know it's true
It's hard to make a change
Let's take a small step
One by one never stop
I'll make a change


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Lyrics:

People say I try too hard
People say I come off really awkward

You know I don’t mean no harm
I’m just trying to be myself but

Sometimes I get confused
‘Cause I can’t read social cues
Threw my inhibitions out the door
I don’t have an excuse
I’m just living in my youth
Don’t know why people don’t like me more

I have no friends but that’s okay
I don’t need them anyway
I do my best all on my own
And I’d just rather be alone
Rather be alone

I have no friends but I’ll be fine
I don’t need them to pass the time
And when I put my resting bitch face on I look stone cold
I’d just rather be alone
Rather be alone

I have no friends

I have no friends but that’s okay
I don’t need them anyway
I do my best all on my own
And I’d just rather be alone
Rather be alone

I have no friends

You’ll never know what’s on my mind
You’ll never know the secrets that I’m keeping
I’ll scare you off with my crazy eyes
‘Cause all I need is me myself and

I don’t got no shame
‘Cause my life is just a game
And I don’t care who’s been keeping score
Everybody thinks I’m strange
It’s just something in my brain
Don’t know who they’re being normal for

I have no friends but that’s okay
I don’t need them anyway
I do my best all on my own
And I’d just rather be alone
Rather be alone

I have no friends but I’ll be fine
I don’t need them to pass the time
And when I put my resting bitch face on I look stone cold
I’d just rather be alone
Rather be alone

I have no friends

I have no friends but that’s okay
I don’t need them anyway
I do my best all on my own
And I’d just rather be alone
Rather be alone

I have no friends

I don’t need anybody’s hand to hold at night
As long as I’m with me I know I’ll be alright
‘Cause I can’t love no one else
Spent my love on just myself
Took this people-pleaser heart
And I tore it all apart
Now I’m finally set free
I’m so proud to be me
That’s why I don’t care I just wanna say

I have no
La la la la la

I have no friends but that’s okay
I don’t need them anyway
I do my best all on my own
And I’d just rather be alone
Rather be alone

I have no friends

All I need is me myself no friends
I have no friends

#Cadmium #NoFriends #Rosendale #ginamusic