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確定要出版後，我其實更希望大家瞭解咖啡空少更多其他咖啡以外的故事，至於書晚點慢慢讓大家知道，今天想跟大家分享我在背包旅行時被騷擾的經驗。
寫在前面，我並不歧視同性戀或是有任何既定立場，我許多朋友也是同志，他們有才華又有正義感，我所遇到的事情只是個案。想跟大家分享是希望大家提高警覺心，男性也會受到性騷擾，如果真的遇到千萬不能息事寧人，我沒有選擇報警就離開現場就是一個錯誤，沒有讓性騷擾犯得到教訓，避免下個受害者。
事情發生在背包旅行後半的過程，從溫哥華到了香港，後經深圳前往泰國、馬來西亞、新加坡，這中間的過程有機會跟大家分享。到了新加坡後用光了旅費，就在煩惱如何繼續旅程的時候，我想到了澳洲打工度假，可以從新加坡飛往，由於持有加拿大護照可以直接在網上申請，不用體檢或是資產證明，簽證下來後我就帶著150塊美金和一張信用卡就飛往澳洲繼續流浪。
在澳洲我做過園藝、餐廳的幫廚、採番茄結瓜、洋蔥工廠包裝等等，就在阿德雷得的洋蔥工廠我遇到了N男，這個性騷擾變態。
當時我住在工頭安排的大房子工寮裡，我跟N男同一個房間，其他兩到三個房間分別住了同樣是打工度假的兩個台灣女生和一個韓國女生。大家相處的都蠻融洽的，一起煮飯聊天看夜景，完全沒有異狀，在當時我對同性戀這件事情是完全沒有概念的，回頭看這件事，發現疏忽的前兆，是他曾經給我看過他充滿男人照片的小冊子。
那晚我還是一如往常用著睡袋就寢，但通常我不會拉開拉鍊，就像蟬蛹般包覆著自己，但那晚我將睡袋攤開，像是棉被蓋著入睡。N男應該就是趁我剛入睡時踢被，伸出手來觸碰我下面，但還好我沒有熟睡，他剛碰到我的時候我就驚醒！
我大喊「 你在幹嗎？！」
他馬上跳回自己床上當沒事。
當下腦中一片空白，我走到客廳在回想到底發生什麼事情。坐在餐桌前，心裡還在顫抖著，不知道如何是好的情況下，我打開了筆電，訂了一張隔天飛往布里斯班的機票，放棄那個月的薪水和工作，逃離了N男。
距離發生的當下已經是近十年前，如果平常跟友人提到打工度假，我就會把這件事拿出來當作玩笑跟大家分享，但事實上我應該要正視這個過去。美國搖滾天團「聯合公園」主唱查斯特（Chester Bennington )他因為小時被比他年長的男性友人性侵，被人取笑隱忍長達6年，一直有輕生念頭，最終走向絕路。
如果當時他強行侵犯我，那時候身型比他小的我，可能就會被他得手，這樣創傷我很難想像要如何去面對。這段經歷讓我更能體會那些受到性騷擾的受害者們。家長們也需要給予小朋友正確的性觀念，不只是異性的行為，同性之前也可能有不當的侵犯。
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chester bennington故事 在 [閒聊] 歌迷和Chester一起看演唱會的故事- 看板LinkinPark 的推薦與評價
https://goo.gl/NkUwDt
亂逛Reddit Linkin Park版看到的
Hey everyone! I just wanted to put out there the Chester
Bennington I got to know for a few hours one night, just a few
months ago.
想要跟大家分享我幾個月前見到Chester的幾個小時
About 20 minutes before Twenty One Pilots was due to take the
stage, the people sitting next to my seat came into our aisle. The
guy next to me looked like Chester to me, but I wasn't sure. I've
been a huge, longtime fan, but I don't follow too many artists on
social media or watch interviews. I just like to listen and go to
shows when possible. So, I wasn't sure if it was him. This guy
was dressed casually, but trendy. He knew the people around us,
and he was talking to the kids the most, high fiving them and
pumping them up for the show. He also handed out new stickers for
his band to these people.
在TOP要登台前的20分鐘，坐在我旁邊的人來了看起來很像Chester
但我不太確定，雖然我是他們長期的粉絲但我不太追蹤藝人動態和看訪問
我只聽音樂或有機會時去看演唱會，這個人穿的很隨性但很有型
他認識我附近的一些人還有和旁邊的小孩們說話和擊掌，還有發了很多貼紙
This guy seemed nice, and since I thought it may be this person I
looked up to for so long, I complimented his hat. He thanked me,
and we talked fashion and living in LA. One of the first things
out of his mouth was praise about his "beautiful wife." He would
bring her up a few times over the course of our conversations, as
well as his children.
他看起來人很好，我覺得他就使我一直很仰慕的那個人，我稱讚了他的帽子
他向我道謝然後我們聊了時尚和在洛杉磯的生活，第一件他說的事情就是稱讚
他美麗的老婆，他在對話中常提到她和他的小孩
I asked what the stickers he was passing out was, saying that I
love stickers, as I had a KROQ sticker I jokingly put on my arm on
my way in. He said "I'm in a band called Linkin Park," and said
how they had new stuff coming out soon and these were new stickers
for promotion. I think it's important to have those words in
quotes, though, because at no point did he give any indication
that he was Chester Bennington, the singer of Linkin Park, amongst
other things. This was about him being a part of Linkin Park, the
band. It really gives an insight as to what being a part of it
meant for him. He talked about how they have a different sound on
this record, and how excited he was about it. I can't stress
enough how excited he was about the new music. He described it
with such passion, talking about all of the cool sounds and
collaborations, but still the deep and heartfelt lyrics that make
Linkin Park's music what it is. He said how the new record would
surprise people, but in a good way. He told me about Heavy coming
out the next day, and how excited he was for that song. He was
just so excited about the new album and his future. He was so
happy, energetic, and full of life.
我問他剛剛發的貼紙是什麼，還跟他說我很喜歡貼紙還在進場貼了KROQ的貼紙
在手上，他說他在一個叫Linkin Park的樂團裡有新歌要發行了然後貼紙是宣傳用的
而在之前他完全沒提到他就是Chester Bennington是LP的主唱
他只是提到他是Linkin Park的團員，這可看出對他來說是LP的一份子對他的意義
他講到他們新專輯會有很不一樣的音樂，還有他對此有多興奮
我無法用文字敘述他有多興奮，因為他描述時充滿著這麼多的熱愛
說到有這麼多酷斃了的音樂和新的合作，但歌曲仍有最代表LP標誌深沈且直入人心
的歌詞 他說新專輯一定會讓大家很驚喜，而且是好的那一方向的
他說第二天Heavy就要發行了，他有多為這首歌感到興奮
他對新專輯和他的未來充滿了激昂的心情 他很開心重滿活力和生命
At this point, the people behind me asked him for a picture, as
well as someone a few people in front of me. He was so kind to
everyone, taking pictures, shaking hands, giving out stickers, and
giving high fives. He came to this show with people, yet he
talked to all of us all night.
這時有人想要跟他合照，他對所有人都超和善的跟大家拍照握手擊掌
發給大家貼紙，他是和其他朋友一起來看表演卻一直跟我們其他人聊天
During the concert, Chester was more into it than many of the fans
I saw on the floor. I'm a huge Twenty One Pilots fan, and I'm
very energetic during concerts, and Chester was right there with
me, which is not what I expected from any neighbor in seats. He
was dancing, singing, and rapping to every song. He rapped and
sang with all of us, turning around to rap to Ride with the guys
behind us who asked him for a picture, high fiving them after
doing so. At one point, during the song Lane Boy, Tyler Joseph
asked everyone to get low. Most of the people in the pit did it
and people in the seats either stayed standing or seated, but my
friend and I got low. I turned to my right and saw Chester also
down low, and he reached over to give me a high five. That moment
above all others stands out to me the most.
在演唱會中他比其他在搖滾區的歌迷還投入，我是ＴＯＰ的大粉絲
而Chester跟我一樣激動，我沒想到看台區的鄰座會是這樣的
他每首歌都跟著邊唱邊跳邊rap，還邊跳邊唱跟人合照
在Lane Boy這首歌時台上要求大家蹲下來，搖滾區的人都照做了
但看台區的人大部分都站著或坐著，我也照做了當我看向右邊
發現Chester也蹲在地上還跟我擊掌，這是幾個我印象很深的時刻
He left the show and gave everyone high fives on his way out. It
was my first Twenty One Pilots show in seats, and I didn't think
it would be as fun as the past few times I had been in the pit,
but it will forever live as my favorite Twenty One Pilots show
because I got to spend it with one of my biggest heroes and
inspirations, and because of how great and fun he was. The Chester
I got to know that night was friendly, fun, energetic, happy, and
excited for his future, and Linkin Park's future. I don't think
I'll ever meet someone so kind at another show.
他結束離開時還一路跟所有人擊掌，這是我第一次在看台上看TOP的演出
但比在搖滾區還有去而這也會永遠是我最喜歡的一場TOP演唱會
因為我有機會跟我最大的英雄和靈感來源一起參加而他是這麼有趣人這麼好
當天晚上我見到的人友善有趣充滿活力開心對自己和LP的未來充滿憧憬
我認為我再也不會在其他演唱會碰到像他這麼友善的人了
I didn't mention this before, because I didn't mention it to him,
but Linkin Park's music got me through some things I don't know if
I would have handled as well without those songs. There are some
songs I haven't been able to listen to since hard parts of my
life, and songs that would instantly bring me to tears. I didn't
tell him because I didn't want to word vomit, and I didn't want to
ruin the time we were having. After seeing how he treated other
fans, I know I could have and should have told him just how much
his music meant to me. I'm really grateful I had this experience
with him since his music meant so much to me, as it does to so
many others. I never got to see them, having had tickets to the
cancelled tour, and tickets to the first date of tour next week,
so having this memory means so much.
我沒告訴他LP的音樂曾幫助我度過人生黑暗的日子，有些歌在那段日子之後
我就再沒聽過，因為一聽就要流淚了，我沒告訴他因為我不想這毀了我們這段時光
但在看了他對待其他的歌迷，我應該要告訴他他的音樂對我的意義
我很慶幸居然有機會跟他一起參加這團演唱會因為他的音樂對我代表了太多
我從沒有機會去過他們的演唱會，本來都買了今年巡迴的票
I wanted people to get to see the Chester I saw, because he was
amazing. A caring husband and father, with a larger than life
personality who treated fans like friends, and who was so full of
excitement for his future.
我想要讓人們知道，我見到的Chester是多麼出色的人，是個好丈夫好爸爸
對待他的粉絲就像朋友一樣，而且對未來充滿了憧憬
Proof: I posted screenshots on my instagram of our twitter
interactions and the stickers he gave me:
https://www.instagram.com/p/BWx06HtlD3-/?taken-by=eh.rica
The actual twitter interaction is here:
https://twitter.com/airwrecca/status/832795618791690240
Screenshot from Chester's instagram story that I'm in:
https://twitter.com/airwrecca/status/888757539072090112
還是難以接受和相信他已經離開了Q Q
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In a world filled with hate, we must still dare to hope.
In a world filled with anger, we must still dare to comfort.
In a world filled with despair, we must still dare to dream.
In a world filled with distrust, we must still dare to believe.
~~~~By Michael Jackson
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