最好的自己不在未來，就在現在。
認真回想，以前我好像在每一段關係中都是在扮演某一個角色，不由自主的在為每個對象做調整。不只有在戀愛上，有時候可能跟朋友、工作夥伴都是，尤其是在前輩面前，常常我都會本能反應似的改變自己。聲音要甜一點嗎？笑話要低級一點嗎？從穿衣服就可以看出，我今天是要跟誰吃飯。雖然是微調，但透露出了一件事，我好像不夠喜歡真正的自己，所以才會擔心大家也不會喜歡真正的我。我告訴自己即使累，但如果持續努力，有一天就能變成大家都喜歡的Lara。
久而久之我和世界的相處模式只有「由外到內」，會依照別人對我的反應去斷定我的下一步。大家會覺得我很好相處，我卻越來越不快樂。現在我慢慢開始懂了，原來我把順序弄反了。我該優先處理的是自己內心的感受，其他人買不買單，其實跟你一點關係都沒有。就像找另外一半，如果我跟夢中情人在一起，但我根本無法在他面前做自己，最後還是會走不下去。
我現在33歲，So What? 終於懂，「當下的自己」才是人生時間軸上最重要的！
對了，有人好奇這次「{}」的意思嗎？簡單說是「大括號」，在數學運算式中稱作「空集合」。數學不好的人就想像一個清空的行李箱吧。「空」不是無，而是無限可能。括號還有另外一個更好懂的意思，就是「優先處理」。將過去整理過後的自己，回歸純粹，態度成熟自信！(失戀後重新出發的人應該很有感觸吧！🤣)
Your best self is not in the future, but in the Now.
Looking back, I seem to have been playing a role in almost every relationship I was ever in. I'm not just talking about romantic relationships. Whether it was with friends or colleagues (especially seniors), I would modify myself almost instinctively. Should my voice be sweeter? My jokes dirtier? If you wanted to know who I was eating with that day, all you had to do was look at the clothes I was wearing.
The changes were subtle, but they still reflected a truth: I didn’t feel like the real me was enough so I was worried that other people would also find her lacking. I told myself that if I just kept working at it, I would someday become a version of Lara that everyone accepted.
Eventually I only knew how to get my cues from the external world. I would always base my next step on feedback I got from others. Most people considered me easy to get along with, but I grew more and more unhappy.
I think I had it all wrong. My first priority should have been listening to my inner voice. Whether or not other people agree with it is not in my control nor of my concern. Take looking for a partner. Even if I found the person of my dreams, it would never last if I couldn’t be myself around them.
I am 33 years old. So What? I finally understand that "the present self" is the most important thing on the timeline of life! It’s time to prioritize me!
By the way, is anyone curious about the meaning of "{}" this time? Besides the more commonly known representation of parentheses as prioritization, these curly brackets are called “the empty set”. The empty what? If like me, math is not your strongest suit, think of it as an empty suitcase. "Empty" doesn’t mean nothing, but infinite possibilities! What will you fill your life with this time?
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every time意思 在 [外絮] KD：我從不認為自己是乘客，我上場時間- 看板NBA 的推薦與評價
KD：我從不認為自己是乘客，我上場時間多、得分多，老巴你說哪位傳奇球星不尊重我？
KD's performance prompted Barkley to make a comment about bus drivers and bus ri
ders. Given how disappointing Durant's performance was, Barkley insinuated that
he joined the Golden State Warriors for the ride to the championships. Durant wo
n the title in 2017 and 2018.
KD的表現促使老巴發表了司機乘客論。考慮到KD令人失望的表現，老巴暗示他是上了金州勇
士的車奪冠。KD在2017年和2018年贏得了總冠軍。
Although KD shared his thoughts via social media, he opted to elaborate. On "The
ETCs with KD and Eddie Gonzalez," he said:
雖然KD已經透過社群媒體分享了他的看法，但他仍選擇了再次詳細闡述。KD在節目中表示：
"Bus riders, bus drivers, like, what does that even mean? We play a team game, I
thought, at the end of the day. And we all played with great players, but I fee
l like I can stand out among any player. I don't have to minimize myself even fo
r great players.
KD：司機、乘客，那是什麼意思？說到底籃球是一項團隊運動。我們都和偉大的球員一起合
作過，但我覺得我可以在任何球員中脫穎而出。即使是偉大的球員，我也不必貶低自己。
"So, naah, I never looked at it if I'm riding the bus, 'cause I played a lot of
minutes, and I scored a lot of points for that team. Then you say I won't get re
spect from the legends. Like, what legends? What group of legends are you talkin
g about? Who? 'Cause every time I run into a legend, I get nothing but love.
KD：所以我從來不認為自己是乘客，因為我在那支球隊打了很長時間、得了很多分。你(老
巴)說我不會從傳奇們那裡得到尊重，比如哪些傳奇球星？你說的是哪一位傳奇？因為每次
我遇到傳奇前輩們時，我得到的只有愛。
"What are you talking about? Who was the group of guys that I'm supposed to go a
nd have a conversation to ask if I can get respect from? It's just a bunch of s*
*t that you make up. Bus riders, bus drivers. Bro, I played a lot of minutes, I
shot a lot of shots, I made a lot of shots, what you talking about?"
KD：你在說什麼呢？誰是我應該去交談並詢問我是否能得到尊重的那群人？這些只是你編的
一堆廢話，什麼司機、乘客，我在那支球隊的上場時間很多，我投進了很多球，你在說什麼
呢？
https://pse.is/4a8lzg
KD：要說幾次，KD不是乘客
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