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💔 Until divorce do us part: how to end a marriage amicably
直到「離婚」將我們分開：如何心平氣和地結束婚姻？

💍 With divorce rates soaring internationally, separation has become even more emotionally and logistically difficult due to the pandemic.

隨著離婚率在全世界持續飆升，受到新冠肺炎疫情影響，使得分居在情感面和實際上都變得更加艱難。

👀 So, what impact has the pandemic had on our relationships?
Among the many things COVID-19 has made more difficult is divorce, both logistically due to shutdowns throughout the legal system, and emotionally. Many around the world are already feeling isolated, and undergoing a divorce can exacerbate those feelings.

疫情對人們的關係造成什麼衝擊？
受到新冠肺炎影響而滯礙難行的諸多事情中，其中一項就是離婚；無論是由於整個法律體系暫時關閉而導致實行困難，或是在情感上的衝擊。世界各地已有許多人感覺孤離，而離婚的過程可能加劇那些感受。

⛩ And yet, divorce is a reality for growing numbers of people around the world, a result of a perfect storm of pandemic-related conditions that may include increased stress due to poor health or unemployment and far more time spent together at home. In the US, divorce rates soared by more than 34 per cent in the first four months of the pandemic, with newlywed separations doubling to 20 per cent.

僅管如此，離婚對於世界越來越多的人來說已是現實，疫情又讓健康惡化、失業導致的壓力提升以及激增的在家相處時間讓離婚變得更常見。在美國，疫情開始盛行的初四個月內，離婚率就飆升了34%以上，新婚佳偶的分居率變成兩倍達到20%。

Lawyers in Italy have reported similar: an uptick of 30 per cent as couples emerged from lockdown. A spike in divorce in Japan, meanwhile, launched a new term on social media in that country: “Corona divorce.”

義大利的律師也有類似的情報：因封鎖而湧現辦理離婚的伴侶上升了 30%。 與此同時，日本也激增離婚率，該國的社交媒體上甚至出現了一個新名詞：「新冠離婚。」

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【恨む時間の減らし方】

いつも、「一筆書きで喋っている」と言いますか、終わりどころとか何も考えずに、フラッと喋っているので、喋っている自分に気づかされることが時々あります。

それこそ、昨日、「嫌いな人がいない」と言ったんですが、そういえば、僕、本当に嫌いな人がいないんです。
嫌いな行動はいくつかありますよ。
なので、「人としてできている」というわけではないです。ヤリチンだし。


喋ってみて、「あれ？ なんで僕は嫌いな人がいないんだっけ？」と、そこで初めて考え出すわけですが、昨日の場合だと、『「意見」と「人格」を分けて考えているから』ということで片付くんですね。

あとは、そこそこ忙しいから、わざわざ「嫌いな人」を作って、そこに時間を割くのが面倒だと思っているのかもしれません。

「映画『えんとつ町のプペル』の公開まで、あと２ヶ月」というタイミングで、不倫をした有名人に時間と感情を割いている場合じゃないじゃないですか。
心の底からどうでもいいんで。

なので、ツイッターとかで有名人の不倫に対して、怒りのツイートとかしている人がいたら、ソッコーでフォローを外します。
他人の不倫なんて、僕の人生において、１秒も必要がない時間なので。
バシバシと(笑)


で、「嫌い」繋がりでいうと、そういえば僕は何かを「恨む」みたいなこともないんです。

ここはハッキリしておきたいのですが、僕は、たとえば当時のクラウドファンディングをした時とか、絵本を無料公開した時とか、「ひな段」以外に活躍の場所を求めた時とか、「何か新しい挑戦をした時にはその都度、日本中から批判された」ということをよく言います。

これは批判してきた人を攻撃しているわけでも、恨んでいるわけでもなくて、「皆、『正しいか正しくないか』で判断していなくて、『知らないもの』を脊髄反射的に批判する傾向があって、それは、巡り巡って皆の首を絞めることになるから、批判をするのならば、キチンと咀嚼した上で、批判しようね」という注意喚起です。

とにかく僕は話を前に進めたいヤツなんです。
そこに下心なんて一切ない。
皆と面白いことをしたいだけです。


「いやいや、本当は金儲けでしょ」とか言われるのですが、そんなものには一切興味がない。

僕の生活費と、僕がエンタメに投資している額および、被災地や貧困国に支援している額の比率を聞いたら、ドン引きすると思います(笑)。
ちなみに僕のレギュラーの生活費は貧乏大学生とさして変わりません。

嘘だと思うのなら、僕の近しいスタッフに聞いてみてください。
贅沢なんかには、興味がないんです。
世の中には、そういうやつがいるんです。僕です。



話を戻します。



「恨む」って、かなり長い時間を奪われるじゃないですか？

そう考えると、なるべく恨まない方がいいですよね？

となると、ちょっとややこしいですが、自分の人生において「恨む確率」を減らした方がいいと思うんですね。

その時、「避けることができない恨み」と「避けることができる恨み」を分けた方がいいと思っています。

たとえば、「大切な家族が被害者になってしまった」ということで発生する恨みは、なかなか避けられないと思うんですね。

ここはもう諦める。

じゃあ、「避けることができる恨み」って何なんだ？　と考えた時に、結論、「代替案を作ることができる問題」だと僕は思っています。



たとえば、映画『えんとつ町のプペル』のプロモーションとして、もともと全国の映画館をまわって、映画『えんとつ町のプペル』のストーリーを全部喋るイベントを開催しようとしていたんです。

で、各映画館をおさえて、スケジュールも組んで、「じゃあ、始めるぞ！」となったタイミングで、コロナが来ちゃって、全部白紙になったんですね。

そこで、どこだけブーブー言おうが、コロナがフッと消えることはないので、「じゃあ、オンラインに切りけるか？」となって、白紙になった３日後にはクラウドファンディングを立ち上げて、そのリターンで「映画の宣伝を兼ねたオンライン講演会」とか、「それこそストーリーを全部喋る会のオンライン版」を出したんです。

一回の講演会で１万人を超える人が集まって、結果、オフラインで全国を回るよりも多くの人に届けることができたので、「ああ、これはこれで、良かったね〜」となった。



でも、それって、僕が「クラウドファンディング」という選択肢を持っていたからだし、オンラインイベントも慣れまくっていたから、「じゃあ、こっちに舵を切ろうか」となったわけで、そんなものを一切持っていなくて、そんな選択肢があることを知らなかったら、コロナに全部持っていかれたわけだから、「コロナが憎い」となったと思うんです。

代替案がなければ、奪われちゃうんですね。
だから、奪った人や現象を恨んでしまう。


つまり、「恨み」というのは、知識不足が生んでいる。



物事を知らなければ知らないほど、「恨む確率」が上がっちゃう。
否定ばっかりしている人って、新しい知識を入れていなくて、選択肢が極端に減っているから、恨む頻度が増えて、恨みに割いている時間が増えちゃう。

健康に気を使って８０歳まで長生きしたところで、恨んでいる時間が１０年ぐらいあったら、実質、稼働しているのは７０年なわけで、健康に気を使うのなら、それと同じモチベーションで、ちゃんと知識を入れて、恨む確率を下げた方がいいと思います。

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テレビ東京
「クロストークラウンジ」
【OA日】
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関テレ(フジ系列全国ネット)
「華丸大吉&千鳥のテッパンいただきます」
【OA日】
11/10(火)22:00~22:54
[how to reduce time to hate]

Do you always say ′′ I'm talking with a konigs," I'm talking about the end of the day, and I'm talking to flats, so I'm sometimes aware of myself that I'm talking about.

That's why yesterday I said, ′′ I don't like anyone," but when I think about it, I don't really hate it.
There are some nasty actions.
So it doesn't mean ′′ it's made as a person," It's a yarichin.


Talk to me," what? Why don't I have a haters?" it's the first time I've ever thought about it, but in the case of yesterday, I'm thinking about ′′ opinion ′′ and ′′ personality ′′ so I'm going to finish it I'm sorry.

Later, I'm pretty busy, so I might think it's troublesome to make ′′ haters ′′ all the way and spend time there.

Isn't it the time to take time and emotions to a celebrity who has adultery at the time of ′′ 2 months until the release of the movie ′′ a town
I don't care from the bottom of my heart.

So, if anyone is doing anger tweets against celebrity adultery on Twitter or something, I will remove the follow in sotto.
The adultery of others is the time I don't need 1 seconds in my life.
With ba lol


So, when I think about it, I don't even ′′ hate ′′ something.

I want to be clear here, but when I did crowdfunding at the time, and when I published a picture book for free, I asked for a place to be active other than ′′ Hinata Dan," When I do something new, I often say that every time I have been criticized from Japan

This is not attacking people who have been criticized, but not a grudge," everyone is not judging by ′′ right or right," and the spinal cord of ′′ what I don't know ′′ I tend to criticize reflective, and it's going to strangle everyone's neck over the tour, so if you're going to criticize it, let's criticize it and criticize it

Anyway, I'm the one who wants to go forward.
There is no ulterior motive there.
I just want to do something interesting with everyone.


′′ No, no, it's actually money but I'm not interested in anything like that.

I think I'm going to pull a don off when I hear my living expenses and the amount I'm investing in entertainment and the ratio of the amount that I'm supporting in the disaster area and poverty country (lol).
By the way, my regular living expenses don't change to poor college students.

If you think it's a lie, ask my close staff.
I'm not interested in luxury.
There's something like that in the world. It's me.



I'll bring back the story.



Isn't ′′ hate ′′ going to be robbed of quite a long time?

If you think so, it's better not to grudge as much as you can, right?

It's a bit confusing, but I think it's better to reduce the ′′ probability of hate ′′ in your life.

At that time, I think it's better to separate the ′′ grudge that can't be avoided ′′ and ′′ grudge that can be avoided,"

For example, I don't think it's quite inevitable that the grudge that occurs because of ′′ the precious family has become a victim,"

I'm already giving up here.

So what is ′′ a grudge that can be avoided," When I thought about it, conclusion," I think it's a problem that can make an alternative,"



For example, as a promotion for the movie ′′ a no-in-town ′′ I was originally trying to hold an event to talk all about the story of the movie ′′ a in the town ′′ as a promotion.

So, I've been holding each movie theater, and I'm going to have a schedule, and I'm going to start," then I'm going to start!" and the corona is coming, and it's all blank.

So, how much do you say oink, but corona doesn't disappear, so," then, I'm going to cut it online?" and after 3 days of being blank, I'm going to have a crowdfunding. Standing up I raised it, and on the return, I put out the ′′ online lecture with the promotion of the movie ′′ and ′′ it's the online version of the meeting that talks all about the story,"

Over 1 million people gathered in one lecture, and as a result, they were able to deliver to more people than going around the country offline," Oh, this is it, good for you ~" It has become.



But that's because I had an option to ′′ Crowdfunding ′′ and the online event was also used to it," then I'm going to cut the rudder here," and I'm going to have a good time with that. If I didn't know that there was an option like that, I would have had it all in Corona, so i think I've become ′′ I hate corona,"

If you don't have an alternative, you'll be robbed.
So I'm going to grudge the people and the phenomenon who took it.


In other words, ′′ grudge ′′ is a lack of knowledge.



The more you don't know, the more you don't know, the more you hate,"
People who deny it don't have new knowledge, and the option is reduced to extreme, so there are more frequency to hate, and there are more time to grudge.

When you take care of your health and live long until 80 years old, if you have a grudge time for about 10 years, it's been 70 years since I've been in the middle of a long time, and I'm going to take care of my health. I think it's better to put knowledge properly and lower the probability of hate with the same motivation.

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整理資料發現近兩年前去某國際研討會分享 #手天使 心得時的講稿，當時把我知道的議題面向都寫進去了。貼上來給有興趣的朋友。

[[slide page 1]]
Thank you for attending this part.
I'm from Hand Angel, a non-profit organization of Taiwan.

The title of my presentation is "As a sex worker and a sex volunteer",
since I'm both a sex worker, and also attending Hand Angel as a sex volunteer.

[[slide page 2]]
Allow me to introduce my organization more,
though you may know some from what Vincent has said in the morning.

Our main tenet is sexual rights to people with disabilities.

[[slide page 3]]
This includes not only orgasm, but also the right to control one's sexuality with autonomy and without discrimination.
People know us usually because we provide limited sexual service for servere physical or visual disabilities, including females.

Hand Angel is not a registered organization in Taiwan,
since we literally provide sexual service, which is considered against public order and morals.

However, we are still able to initiative our idea on the table
because our service are free, which means we actually do not violate any law.

[[slide page 4]]
In Taiwan, the definition of "sexual transaction" includes obscene acts in exchange for monetary,
which means it's considered transactional sex even there is no sexual intercourse.
And since transactional sex is technically illegal in Taiwan,
there's no legal way for us to charge anything by providing any service which may be considered obscenity.

This is much different in other countries.
In Japan, the law prohibiting sexual transaction only applies to intercourse between one male and one female. That's why White Hands and NOIR are able to provide paid handjob. The other reason is that they seem do not locate their service as sexual transaction. We can talk about this difference later.
And in Hong Kong, there's some way for sex workers not to be punished, which is called "one-woman brothel". So the difficulty for people with disabilities to satisfy their sexual desire would be different.

I, who has been a sex worker for years -- under the table, of course -- was invited to join Hand Angel at its very beginning.
[[slide page 5]]
People keep asking me that how a sex worker would think about a free sexual service.
But before that question, I think it's more important for us to know the difference other than money.
What's the difference between a classical transactional sex and our service?

As a sex worker, I hope my customers will come back to me more and more, as many times as they can pay.
But as a member of Hand Angel, I hope the servees would not need us anymore.
In fact, I hope they don't have to come to us at the very beginning.

The reason why people with disabilities may need sexual service, is the absence of sexual resource, the resource to fulfill one's sexual desire.

This is just like other issues of disabilities.
[[slide page 6]]
Just providing a service would not resolve the structural problem.

For example, if you give food to the poor without changing their situation, you would end up finding out that they're still poor.
Now change the "food" to "sex".
If we just give our own sex to those who barely have sexual resource, we'll end up exploiting ourselves, and their bad situation still remains.

The problem is, disabled people are considered abnormal, and they have been treated as no unnecessary needs.
But what is necessary for a person to live her own life instead of just survive?
In our issue, disabled people are usually considered asexual, and seldom sexy. That's the stigma we're going to break down.

[[slide page 7]]
There are some textures talking about disabled people in love and having sex, such as "Scarlet Road", "Sex on Wheels", and "The Sessions".
However, the narrative are usually based on ableism.
Viewers usually focus on how can the service provider "bear" to have sex with disabled people, instead of seeing the obstacles disabled people encounter.

[[slide page 8]]
A feminist has said that the relationship a disabled person has is considered depending on the compassion of the other person. People think their sexuality is disgusting and only saints are able to tolerate it.

So we can see the problem is not only physical obstacles, but also how we think about intimate relationship a disabled person deserves.

[[slide page 9]]
Does Hand Angel care about intimate issue? The answer is yes.
In our service, we provide not only sexual service. Our target is not the physical orgasm, but the infinite opportunity of their own lives.
Here are two examples.

[[slide page 10]] Little Prince
Since this servee can sense nothing below his waist, a classical handjob would be meaningless.
Fortunately, we have a BDSM queen in our team.
She thought of techniques in SM to check how pain it is to the slave, and use the same trick to check how the servee's body can feel.
I have to emphasize: that was not a medical treatment, that was about communication with each other.
They were talking about the feeling of two people, instead of the body of one person.
The whole process relies on the intimacy between the sex volunteer and the servee.

[[slide page 11]] ND
"Strolling" for him was from his room to the front door of his home.
Uh, I'm not talking about he lives in a big house.
Though using an electric wheelchair, ND's finger was not powerful enough to control the device for more than 10 minutes,
which means going out alone is not possible for him.
But after applying for our service, he trained himself to "walk" longer.
Even after our service, we were told that he kept trying to leave home and meet other friends.

Another servee has tried other entertainment such as snorkeling and paragliding after our service.
He's having a more plentiful life than before, and even than me.

[[slide page 12]]
In these cases, we can see that:
First, physical orgasm is not the only purpose of a sexual service.
Secondly, libido, or desire for sexual activity, is a strong energy for people to live.

There's a continuing question for us: People can still live without sex.
[[slide page 13]]
What's so important for disabled people to have sex?
Well, I think sex is probably not important for those who can have sex easily, but the impossibility to sex or intimacy may deny the self-esteem of a person.
Sex is an important reason for most people to make friends. So on the other hand, once a person is forced to abandon the opportunity to have sex, she (or he) might lose the energy to social activities. And that's not good for mental health.

[[slide page 14]] The 3 aspects we care about
First, physical orgasm. This is not only about sex organ, but also those come from your erogenous zone.
The problem is not only that people don't know how to interact with disabled people during sex,
but also that people do not want to know how the sex would be for people with different disabilities.

Second, intimacy. The right to have a satisfying date is also important.
Let's imagine, what if a couple of lovers want to kiss each other while seeing movie in a theater, but one of them is in wheelchair so their positions are actually separated?

Third, social integration. Many people with disabilities don't have enough opportunity to make close friends. One of the reasons is that other people usually don't know how to react with disabled people. Therefore, education is important.

[[slide page 15]] Gender Equity Education
In Taiwan, gender equity education comprises 3 parts: affective education, sex education, and gay and lesbian education.
Though I also want to introduce the situation that the conservative group is raising a proposal of referendum to forbid gay and lesbian education, but that's not the issue here so I have to skip that. I hope people who are interested in Taiwan may notice that same-sex marriage is not the only issue about gender equity.

Uh, back to disability rights movement.
As an organization which cares both gender issue and disability issue, we note that even open-minded gender activists may ignore the existence of people with disabilities.
Gender equity education is never designed or applied in the point of view of the disabled.
For example, there are some materials for teaching safe sex, but people seldom think about how a blind person should know before she (or he) masturbate or have sex.

We have a servee who once masturbated in the bathroom of his home, but couldn't clean up since not knowing where his semen reached during ejaculation, and therefore shocked his sister who later used the bathroom.
And another friend bought an artificial vagina in a sex toy store. But he didn't even know he have to erect before insertion.

[[slide page 16]] female servee
People caring about gender equity keep question us: why is there only one female servee during these 5 years after our foundation?
Well, we think the answer is complicated. But the most important one is: how difficult for a female to "confess" she has sexual desire?
We all know about "slut shaming", and those terms to humiliate females by their sexuality -- such as "bitch" and "whore".
It's difficult even for able-bodied females to state their sex experience and preference.
Then it's even more difficult for disabled females to think what she herself wants.

But before sexual activity with other people, disabled females don't even know their body well.
The only female servee we have, told us she has never seen or touched her own vagina.
So we also hosted some conferences and speeches to discuss about such situation of disabled females.

[[slide page 17]] Androcentrism
This is an important issue for us. And I think it's important for those who care about sexual health of disabled people.
Though there are some textures talking about sexual desires of disabled females. To provide sexual service or even sex education to them is barely seen.
I have to admit that, even though there are more and more female members joining us, androcentrism is still not easy to get over.

[[slide page 18]] limitations
Hand Angel provides service to those with servere physical or visual disabilities.
So here comes a frequently asked question: what about others?
The main difficulty for us is that we don't know enough about the situation of other disabilities.
Of course we know that people with other disabilities also don't have enough sexual resources,
but we ourselves do not have enough resources to share, either.
That's why we also hope other people to compose other similar organization.

Meanwhile, there are some people we cannot help because of law.
Adolescents are the ones I myself care about most,
since male teenagers have overwhelming sexual desire, and that would be hell for those with upper limb disability.

However, there are always laws prohibiting youths to have sex in every country.
[[slide page 19]]
In Taiwan, it is legal to have sexual activity after 16. No matter it's intercourse or not.
But even for an organization providing free service like us, the member who communicate with sex volunteer and the servee would be punished as a broker if the servee is younger than 18.
Actually, we do have an applier who mailed us about his desire when he was 15. What we can do is tell him to wait 3 more years.

Unfortunately, being an adult does not mean your right to sex is permitted.
[[slide page 20]]
People with intellectual disability or mental disorder are also infantilized, treated as babies or angels, and considered asexual.
The dilemma is similar to what teenagers have. Their consents are not considered valid.
That is frustrating. The law to protect them from sexual violence also tortures them.

[[slide page 21]] Acrotomophilia and devotees
While talking about disabled people in love or having sex, this is also an issue we should mention.
Some people worry about that devotees are just trying to dominate or take control of the disabled people.
This is similar to MacKinnon's dominance theory and male supremacy.
Devotees are considered to have more power in the relationship, and thus disabled people have a lack of autonomy.

I think that's a stigma, too.
The dominance theory does not deny free love. It focuses on the power issue.
Thus, the problem lies still on the absence of resources disabled people deserve.
Slanders on devotees are based on the prejudice that disabled people are never sexy,
and that denies the possibility for disabled people to have plentiful sexual activity.
The whole society shall support disabled people to have their own autonomy in their relationship.

[[slide page 22]] Difficulties
Usually, people would understand sexual desire of disabled people.
But to support it publicly is another story, especially for the organizations relying on donations.
There are some social workers and parents telling us that they want to do something to help their cases and family,
but it is still an issue which could not be spoken.
It's never been easy for us to talk about sex on the table, but it should be done.
Even for those who don't agree with the idea of sexual service, I do hope you could at least support disabled people to talk about their sex and romance.

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This ends my report. Thank you for listening.
I'm Kong, a sex volunteer of Hand Angel from Taiwan.