【51歲了，看八字還有用嗎？】
At Age 51, Is Bazi Analysis Still Relevant?
曾經有人問過我類似以上的問題。
我的答案是：人生已過了一半。如果目前沒有您無法解決的難題，對於未來您也沒有什麼想要實現的夢想，不需要指導，那倒不如好好學佛，消業增福，為將來百年歸去時做好準備。
畢竟，無常和明天，不知哪個先到。
提供見證的女客人，年過半百，面對好些家庭問題。我們在今年二月過年前見面。
其中，讓她最頭痛的是與兒子之間的關係。兒子與她說話時，很容易不耐煩，也不聽她的勸告和教導，不像以前會聽完她講整句話。
許多母親遇到這樣的問題，會問我怎樣改善孩子的態度。
我的答案都是：先改變自己。
去改變任何人是很累的事情，也容易吃力不討好。在他的眼裡，會覺得你在逼他。可是，當你能夠改變自己的時候，你身上的磁場會隨之起變化。
人與人之間，喜歡和不喜歡，合與不合，說明了，就是五行的遊戲，磁場碰觸而產生的「火花」。
你的磁場與孩子的磁場不合，源自於你們八字的不合。
想擁有更好的親子關係，玄學上，可採取三種方法：改名、批命，和/或調居家風水。
個人磁場往正確的方向改進，你會發現很多本來不行的事情，突然就通了，不合的人，摩擦也減少了。
當然，如果兩人都願意改變，那就事半功倍了。
女客人說，孩子現在還會跟她開玩笑了。
我指點這位女客人，因為她八字所需，應該常去捐血。她說，2018年體檢報告顯示她有貧血。
可是，這八字不應該有貧血問題的。
我認為是她之前用錯五行，飲食習慣出了岔子。
她見了我後，照著我的話做了一個月，三月時，去做體檢。報告顯示一切正常，她可以捐血。
一個藥，不見得就能醫好所有的人，因為每個人的體質不一樣。一般人會以為喝紅棗茶能補血，所以有這方面的問題，就該多喝。
但在玄學上，這可不一定。對症下藥，在這裡就是要看客人八字而定。
年紀越大的客人，往往越固執，不容易改變自己的看法和作風。有些也因為以前已給不同的師父看過幾次命，更會固執己見。
這位女客人做得到，也真是命不該絕啊！哈～
偶爾，我會遇到客人，在諮詢時詢問關於他們父母的健康。
坦白說，與其東敲西打，如果父母願意，那你倒不如大方點出錢幫自己的父母看命。
真要改善父母的生活，我無法三言兩語就能交代清楚。這樣未免太敷衍你了，可我也不能只收看一個八字的收費卻變成看三個人呀～
客人便會問，孩子與父母，應該先看誰的八字？
一定是父母為先，因為沒有父母就不會有我們。
他們在人間的時間，隨著每一個生日，已逐漸減少。
百善孝為先，這點不要等到母親節才記得。
你真有善功德時，又何愁孩子不受教不成才呢？
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Someone once asked me the question above.
My answer: You have lived half your life. If there is no insurmountable issue at the present and you have no further ambition for the later years, it would be wise to focus on the Dharma diligently to eradicate your karma and prepare for your eventual passing.
After all, you cannot tell which will come first, tomorrow or death.
The female client who provided this testimonial is past 50 years of age and faced plenty family issues. The one which pained her the most is her relationship with her son. Her son is impatient when talking to her and does not heed her advice and teachings, unlike in the past when he would at least hear her finish her sentence.
Many mothers who faced the same dilemma would ask me for ways to improve the attitude of their children.
My answer to them all: Change yourself first.
To change another person is a tiring chore and often goes unappreciated. In the eyes of the other person, he would feel that you are forcing him. But when you can change yourself, the energy fields of your body will start to transform.
The dynamics in a relationship, simply put, is a game of the five elements and the chemistry reaction that arise when two energy fields come together.
The incompatibility in energy fields between you and your child stems from both of your Bazi.
From the Chinese Metaphysics viewpoint, there are three ways to improve the parent-child relationship: Change of the Chinese name, Bazi Analysis and/or alter the Feng Shui of your house.
As you change your own energy field in the positive direction, new paths will open up for problems seemingly hard to resolve and conflicts lessen with people whom you could not get along with.
Of course things would improve doubly quick if both parties are willing to change.
The female client told me that her child could even joke with her now.
I advised her, based on her Bazi, to donate blood regularly. She said a health examination in 2018 revealed that she was anaemic. But this Bazi should not have such a condition. I believe that was due to her using the wrong elements as well as her dietary habits.
She followed my advice for a month, and a health check in March showed that all was well and that she could donate blood.
One type of medicine does not necessarily work for everyone as all of us have different disposition. Most people would assume that drinking red dates tea improves anaemia.
But from the perspective of Chinese Metaphysics, this may not work well. The best cure is the one that is customized to the client’s Bazi.
Older clients tend to be more resistant and stubborn to change. Some clung onto their views so tightly due to their many Bazi analysis with different masters.
This client of mine managed to break the resistance to change. This shows that there’s still hope!
Sometimes I would get questions from clients during Bazi consultation asking about their parents’ health.
Honestly, rather than asking bits and pieces, be generous (if you can afford) and pay to have their Bazi read. I am unable to offer real improvements to your parents’ lives with sparse advice here and there. That would be trying to pull a fast one on you but I can’t be analysing 3 Bazi when you only paid for one.
The client will then ask who should be their priority for Bazi analysis: their child or their parents?
Parents. No two-way about this. Where would you be without them?
Their time in this world is dwindling as each birthday passes.
Filial piety is the foremost of all virtues. Don’t remember this only on Mother’s Day.
If you truly can garner merits from your filial piety virtues, why worry that your child will be disobedient and unable to make the mark?
