女人要活得像朵鮮花,就要懂得愛自己
先生下班回家後說:「房間的電暖爐怎麼開著沒關﹖」
我說:「因為我等一下要進去洗澡﹗」
他說:「這麼嬌貴啊﹗房間還要先預熱﹖」
我說:「對啊﹗我一直都很嬌貴的﹗」
他說:「像花一樣啊﹗那我幫妳改名叫做賽花好了﹗叫尚賽花好不好﹖」
我說:「這個名字不錯,但是﹗我比較喜歡我爸爸給我的名字耶﹗」
女人,本來就像是花一樣嬌貴﹗不要太早就讓自己枯萎了﹗女人要活得像朵鮮花,不只是先生有沒有愛妳,而是妳懂不懂得愛自己﹖
當我們還是被爸媽捧在手掌心上照顧的女兒時,當我們還是被男朋友瞻前顧後的保護時,那嬌豔欲滴的模樣真是人見人愛。只是在走入婚姻之後,有多少脫下高跟鞋的白雪公主,都搖身一變成了灰姑娘呢﹖
當我們埋首在工作中求表現,回到家還要面對柴米油鹽的張羅,孩子的教養問題,家務的分工與維持等,沒有一樣事情是輕鬆的。我們只好匆匆忙忙地在不同的角色中變換與抽身,每天像陀螺一樣不停旋轉的生活,常常讓我們忘記怎麼微笑,愈活愈不快樂,愈活愈懷疑人生。生活怎麼會變成這樣呢﹖
妳該對自己好一點。
女人,要怎麼對自己好呢﹖
1、每天做一點自己喜歡做的事
忙碌的生活,讓每個人的時間都不夠用,但妳的人生是妳自己的,妳有能力與權利,每天抽出一點時間只為自己而活,只做自己想做的事。比方說,讀一點書,追一下劇,或是唱唱歌、散散步、冥思放空,只要是自己做起來會覺得開心快樂的事,都值得妳花點時間來取悅自己。
2、多跟自己微笑
作家張曼娟在《女人的幸福造句》書中寫著:「微笑的弧度,正好讓靈魂快樂的盪鞦韆。」現代人生活步調緊張與壓抑,常常忘記要跟自己微笑一下。微笑有神奇的魔法,只要常常跟自己微笑一下,就會發現臉部的線條柔和了,肩頭上的緊張感消失了,自己解決事情的能力與毅力,卻在放輕鬆後增強了。
3、跟配偶對話保持幽默的彈性
有時配偶是我們生活壓力與緊張的來源,特別是當女人是家庭主婦時,先生往往覺得一整天在家的女人要把家裡所有的事都張羅好,這邊髒、那邊亂,或是小孩的功課沒寫好,全部都是女人的責任,因為男人在外面辛苦工作一天了,而女人卻好像在家閒閒沒事幹的過了一天,但是﹗真的是這樣嗎﹖
不要太計較配偶的挑剔或是挑釁,妳知道妳自己做了甚麼事就好,對於他的要求,合理地去做,不合理的聽聽就好,或是大家來比較一下對家庭的貢獻與付出,吵吵架或溝通一下,都是很消火的方式。
4、吃健康的食物
世界這麼大,但每個人能夠管住的卻只有自己的嘴巴,我們要管住自己說出去的話和吃進去的東西,不要亂說話的造謠生事,更不可以百無禁忌的隨口亂吃。要吃健康的食物,不要吃太多加工過度的食品,不但得不到營養反而讓身體受累、受害。把嘴巴管理好,人生可以省卻很多困擾。
5、適度運動
運動不但有益健康,更可以增強免疫力讓身心靈都愉快。保持適度的運動,是讓自己保持活力與年輕的最佳良方。
6、把自己打扮得乾淨漂亮
俗話說「女為悅己者容」,但女人更應該為取悅自己而裝扮,不要因為結婚生子就忘了裝扮自己,等到自己都嫌棄自己時,那就追悔莫及了﹗
7、學會轉念不鑽牛角尖
很多煩心事,不想不煩,愈想愈煩。女人的心中常常會上演小劇場,也很喜歡鑽牛角尖,其實很多事船到橋頭自然直。不要把時間花在過多的擔憂上,當假想敵太多時,我們會失去戰鬥的能力,記得﹗多思無益,有時「坐而言不如起而行」。
8、保持學習
現在資訊流通快速,很多新事物在網路上都可以自學,要保持學習的心態,不要把生活活成一攤死水。女人要保持容光煥發的外在,更要培養喜歡學習的精神與動力,讓自己內外兼修,愈活愈喜歡自己。
生命是一首起伏跌宕的詩歌,每一個段落唱過了都不再重覆,沒有誰的人生可以重來,只有你自己可以決定曲式與旋律,好好地把握與珍惜,唱一天就少一天的生命之歌,讓它悠揚的響亮。
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In part one of the interview on my blog I posted yesterday, I mentioned how my mother supported me to pursue my interest in art in my early years. I'm forever grateful to her. This is a portrait that I did for her in Hong Kong and below is an introduction of the painting and my mother in an oil painting collection to be published in China in the near future.
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Mother 75x47cm 1982 Hong Kong
母親 75X47CM 1982 香港
In 1960, during my second year at the Affiliated High School of the Guangzhou Academy of Fine Arts while I was home for the winter break, I made an oil painting of my mother. That painting was unfortunately lost during the Cultural Revolution. After my graduation, I was assigned to Zhaoqing City in Guangdong Province, which was very far away from my hometown in Hunan. I only received 12 days a year for family leave including the travel time, so my trips home to Hunan were always rushed affairs with little time for painting. It was not until the 1980s that my mother, siblings, and I were all finally reunited one by one in Hong Kong. By that time, my mother was 72 years old. Two years later, we moved to slightly larger rental accommodations and I found time to paint this portrait of my mother.
1960年冬,我正在廣州美術學院附中二年級的寒假吧,趁假回家時為母親畫過一幅油畫像,可惜文革中丟失了。畢業後工作分配在廣東省的肇慶市,離湖南老家太遠,每年探親假連路程也才12天,因而,回湖南探親都是行色匆匆,少有時間作畫。直到1980年,母親與我們兄弟姊妹先後抵港,重新團聚。此時母親已高齡72歲了。再過兩年,我們搬租到稍大的房子,我才抽空為母親作了這幅畫像。
After I came to Taiwan, I happened to mention the tragedy of my parents caused by the cross-strait standoff to Mr. Liu Shaotang, the president of Bibliographies Publishing. Liu expressed his sympathies as well as his admiration for my mother because she managed to raise us all by herself despite everything that she went through.
我到台灣後,有一次與「傳記文學」社長劉紹唐先生談起父母在這海峽兩岸對峙中的悲慘遭遇時他深表同情與感嘆。並直說你母親真是了不起,經歷那麼多苦難,獨力將你們撫養大,真是很偉大。
My mother was born in Taoyuan County, Hunan. She attended the Zhounan Women's School in Changsha and, to escape from an arranged marriage, fled to Shanghai where she enrolled in the Daxia University. After that, she married, had children, and suffered through China's modern history. It was not until the mid-1980s that she was finally able to travel to Taiwan to sweep my father's tomb. When she passed away in 1994, we fulfilled her final wish by laying her to rest alongside my father.
母親,湖南桃源縣人,早年去長沙念「周南女校」,之後為逃婚獨赴上海唸「大夏大學」,結婚、生子,經歷中國現代史中一切苦厄。直到八十年代中才得以到台灣為父親掃墓。1994年,她老仙逝,我們將她與父親合葬,完成她老最後的願望。
My mother was a good and honest woman filled with compassion. She often taught her children that "integrity is the foundation of personal character." She was well-versed in ancient literature and wrote with a neat, beautiful hand. She frequently reminded me of the need to re-read my letters to ensure that they were "fluent and made sense", and to use well-accepted phrases rather than making up unfamiliar terms. How I miss her!
母親善良、誠實,富于同情心,經常教育子女:忠厚為人之本。她古文好,字端正、秀麗。常告誡我寫信要複讀一遍,要『文從字順』。遣詞造句不要自己生造,要約定從俗……啊,我的母親。
行色匆匆造句 在 Yim Mau-Kun Studio 冉茂芹畫室 Facebook 的最佳貼文
In part one of the interview on my blog I posted yesterday, I mentioned how my mother supported me to pursue my interest in art in my early years. I'm forever grateful to her. This is a portrait that I did for her in Hong Kong and below is an introduction of the painting and my mother in an oil painting collection to be published in China in the near future.
***
Mother 75x47cm 1982 Hong Kong
母親 75X47CM 1982 香港
In 1960, during my second year at the Affiliated High School of the Guangzhou Academy of Fine Arts while I was home for the winter break, I made an oil painting of my mother. That painting was unfortunately lost during the Cultural Revolution. After my graduation, I was assigned to Zhaoqing City in Guangdong Province, which was very far away from my hometown in Hunan. I only received 12 days a year for family leave including the travel time, so my trips home to Hunan were always rushed affairs with little time for painting. It was not until the 1980s that my mother, siblings, and I were all finally reunited one by one in Hong Kong. By that time, my mother was 72 years old. Two years later, we moved to slightly larger rental accommodations and I found time to paint this portrait of my mother.
1960年冬,我正在廣州美術學院附中二年級的寒假吧,趁假回家時為母親畫過一幅油畫像,可惜文革中丟失了。畢業後工作分配在廣東省的肇慶市,離湖南老家太遠,每年探親假連路程也才12天,因而,回湖南探親都是行色匆匆,少有時間作畫。直到1980年,母親與我們兄弟姊妹先後抵港,重新團聚。此時母親已高齡72歲了。再過兩年,我們搬租到稍大的房子,我才抽空為母親作了這幅畫像。
After I came to Taiwan, I happened to mention the tragedy of my parents caused by the cross-strait standoff to Mr. Liu Shaotang, the president of Bibliographies Publishing. Liu expressed his sympathies as well as his admiration for my mother because she managed to raise us all by herself despite everything that she went through.
我到台灣後,有一次與「傳記文學」社長劉紹唐先生談起父母在這海峽兩岸對峙中的悲慘遭遇時他深表同情與感嘆。並直說你母親真是了不起,經歷那麼多苦難,獨力將你們撫養大,真是很偉大。
My mother was born in Taoyuan County, Hunan. She attended the Zhounan Women's School in Changsha and, to escape from an arranged marriage, fled to Shanghai where she enrolled in the Daxia University. After that, she married, had children, and suffered through China's modern history. It was not until the mid-1980s that she was finally able to travel to Taiwan to sweep my father's tomb. When she passed away in 1994, we fulfilled her final wish by laying her to rest alongside my father.
母親,湖南桃源縣人,早年去長沙念「周南女校」,之後為逃婚獨赴上海唸「大夏大學」,結婚、生子,經歷中國現代史中一切苦厄。直到八十年代中才得以到台灣為父親掃墓。1994年,她老仙逝,我們將她與父親合葬,完成她老最後的願望。
My mother was a good and honest woman filled with compassion. She often taught her children that "integrity is the foundation of personal character." She was well-versed in ancient literature and wrote with a neat, beautiful hand. She frequently reminded me of the need to re-read my letters to ensure that they were "fluent and made sense", and to use well-accepted phrases rather than making up unfamiliar terms. How I miss her!
母親善良、誠實,富于同情心,經常教育子女:忠厚為人之本。她古文好,字端正、秀麗。常告誡我寫信要複讀一遍,要『文從字順』。遣詞造句不要自己生造,要約定從俗……啊,我的母親。
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